PEOPLE First … MONEY Second

We may not like politics, but since politicians make decisions impacting the quality of our lives, we need to do our part.

Suze Orman, an American financial guru’s philosophy is, “People first, money second.”

To me this sums up the strategy of addressing people’s needs first because of the consequences of not addressing those needs that will simply multiply over time when not addressed.

As for balancing a budget, we know it is important, but not at any cost, especially costs that will eventually escalate because of needs not being addressed. Some people have the knowledge and wisdom to be able to do both … we just need to give them time to work out both … plus give them room to make mistakes too because, well, it’s a way of leading that is logical, practical, and compassionate.


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March 5, 2019



English words often have more than one meaning, which can even include contrary meanings, but when I researched the word “respect”, all definitions included the words “to value.” Since I was searching for a word, a concept that would cross all boundaries and reflect the belief every person is valuable simply for being a life, respect became a philosophy, has been adopted as principle, and now drives the global initiative because …

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January 22, 2019

Canada’s Multiculturism Day and Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle

Hooray! Today Canada celebrates the diversity of our country created by the immigration of people from around the world!

Many people have forgotten this because as far back as they may recall, their family has always lived in Canada, yet our national and family histories reveal WE ALL came from other countries, and in fact, some of us come from countries who did a lot of invading and conquering, which meant inflicting a lot of mass destruction.

So, the valuable lesson for ALL of US is developing respectful ways to get along no matter where we live … in the same manner we ask children to get along with others  … regardless of our personal religious, political, social, etc. beliefs.


For our own peace of mind that will keep us rational AND compassionate.

And so we can show, not just tell the children, how to co-create a better world.

Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle … will make it so because the concept is logical, practical, and compassionate, which gives it the ability and power to overcome ALL prejudice.

Now we just need to decide to act with the wisdom … plus encourage and empower others to do the same.

Respect … the way back into love.

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June 27, 2016




Yes, though the concept has to be freed from politics, religion, race, class, and any prejudice that impedes one’s ability to see people as individuals trying to survive in a world that teaches “disrespect” as a “philosophy,” though often unconsciously being passed on by experience.

This idea was the driving force behind the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE concept that emerged after intense research, study, observations, and personal experiences that were heavily shaped by prejudices, the conscious and not, of the many people interacted with over several years in very diverse personal, work, and community experiences.

A prime example of the more subtle, but persistent, pervasive, harmful, and even deadly prejudice resulted from an attempt to join a club where membership was supposed to be open to all who were interested, but since these days such open prejudice is not as accepted publicly as it once was, the old tactic of exclusion was used to inform the new member, they were “not liked, therefore were not wanted and were not only not encouraged to join, but discouraged by the lack of effort of the pack to include the newcomer.

To overcome this prejudice that leads to greater acts of exclusion, including physical violence, we simply need to realize as an evoluting species, we do not have to “like” every person in the world to live and let live. We simply need to grow and change our perspective by bringing by all of our prejudices to light so we can see them for what they are and to make positive, conscious choices.

Doing so is the only way the over seven billion people who share the earth with us will move past struggling to survive to thriving … demonstrating we have grown enough as a species to know we do not all have to be the same … look the same … think the same … etc., etc., etc. That in fact, we need all of our differences for the greater good and that we just need to learn how to do this better now that we are aware of each other and our differences … which don’t have to be a bad or threatening thing.

So, the answer is definitively yes. One concept that is logical, practical, and compassionate can unite people across all the great divides … if we consciously choose to allow the concept to teach us how. Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE can … because I know and I know you want to believe too we are so much more than what we yet believe.

June 29, 2015


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We are harmed by our past when we are not aware of its impact on our present and future … personally and collectively.

The scientific field of psychology continues to prove this theory, especially through the practice of psychotherapy and psychological profiling. History reveals that without change, what happened before will happen again. The Bible also affirms the same premise of repetition though the past influence is referred to as a generational influence.

Parents are not perfect. They are people who bring their own baggage to raising a child … unless they first examine their childhood and youth to discover the patterns established when they were being raised.

However, the purpose is not to lay blame on parents, but to recognize what was helpful, but also what was harmful … and needs to be recognized and healed in order for the same baggage …. negative and limiting patterning not to be passed on to the next generation. This process, used in psychotherapy empowers us to “connect the dots” especially the dots related to thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are limiting, hurtful, and even destructive to ourselves and others in all of our relationships … family, friends, workmates, acquaintances, and also greatly impacts how we relate, or not, to leadership in schools, community, and even politically.

The same applies to a culture. Repeating the past just for the sake of repeating the past reveals the conditioned limited thinking that only the past is worth repeating … even if it is harmful … because it is familiar.

But we are not our parents and our children are not us. We are not the global nation we were and we do not have to continue to be what we were or are now.

Unfortunately most people do not have the luxury of time and finances to undergo individual psychotherapy to help them discover what their underlying issues are connected to their parents’ influence and the consequences the unconscious or subconscious conditioning is creating in their lives.

However, fortunately there is another more logical, practical, and compassionate way to not only help people discover and heal from their negative conditioning and unfulfilled needs. The way is to establish the universal truth that every life is valuable … worthy of respect … so we can start putting into place guides and tools to help people realize with the way our world has functioned it is inevitable they have issues from their past … that they will need to discover, work with, and transform so they do not inflict their child(ren) with their pain.

We are doomed to keep going round and round in circles without evolving if we refuse to acknowledge our humanness, frailties, imperfections, and the fact we don’t know it all … and don’t have to. First, we need to know who we really are ourselves before we can successfully guide and help others.

Even after I worked with a psychologist for a year and a half, the process of unraveling who I really was has taken most of my life since we live in a culture with specific, narrow expectations that I didn’t fit into in the first place and as a result caused a series of very unfortunate events that kept me from the wholeness finally … and recently achieved.

Life is complicated enough … especially with what can seem like a continuous learning curve … but that is what life is and the idea that has hurt most of us is that we climb to get to a certain point and then want to just coast for the rest of our lives … but coasting will leave us feeling unresolved at the end of life because we did not fully live … we did not realize our potential because we can deluded by the fallacy that life is just about getting by … even if that means doing the same thing over and over again … even when we know it isn’t fulfilling … leaving us frustrated and angry to the point that what drives us more is primarily our concern for ourselves.

Scientists say we use 10% of our brains, so in other words we have the capacity to not continuously repeat history … our personal or collective. We have the ability to stop harming ourselves with our past by creating a different present and future. Having the desire to do so is the first step. Respecting our life and the lives we are responsible is one driving force … the other is love. What it comes done to is our courage to face our past … personal and collective … with compassion and not blame so we can create a better present and future.

What legacy do you … do we want history to reveal about us?

February 1, 2015

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Based on Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE’S RESPECT SCALE, we can “connect the dots” with a fresh perspective to see how “free speech,” without a high enough Respect Level, is often used for oppression and in reality, is used as a violent act of aggression … sometimes even as a precursor to physical violence.

Making fun of people has consequences … especially people already showing signs of low Respect Levels themselves because of their history, beliefs, and experience plus don’t share our western cultural approval of making fun of people for the fun of it … or for any other reason … adds fuel to always-burning embers … and as we have seen, it only takes one or two who feel maligned and hurt to burst at the seams and unleash the havoc they did in Paris last week … or the havoc unleashed at work places and schools.

Standing up for free speech is vital … yet so is standing up for how free speech is used to hurt and harm rather than to promote if not understanding, at least tolerance and peace.

The solidarity we need is for valuing … respecting all life and developing new methods of communication and cross-cultural relations that is logical, practical … and compassionate … for everyone … particularly for those hurting the most … those most likely to lash out … it is the only way we will peacefully diminish violence of any kind … globally.

January 12, 2015

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Oppression by physical violence … deadly, but spirit oppression by those who do not know they are oppressed …

We know oppression by physical violence is deadly, but often we are not aware of the more life-threatening oppression of people’s spirits by those who are not even aware they are oppressed and, as a result, cast their oppression onto those they are supposed to be “helping.”

Nowhere is this more prevalent than in those who are supposed to lead others into the future … whether the leader is a parent, teacher, principal, counsellor, minister, politician, or mentor of any kind … anyone in a position of authority.

How we can determine if we are being led by an “oppressed” leader is by their words and actions that seek to keep us small and limited based on their oppression … their own experience of being oppressed … being told by words and actions their dreams and goals were not possible and so took the path their own leaders told them to take … and they too became like their leaders … oppressed, bitter and jaded … passing on the legacy of oppression without even knowing it.

Over my lifespan, what was applauded in my life was my conformity to other people’s expectations, regardless of what I wanted. Just because I could do well what other oppressed people valued, did not mean I valued what I could do … and over time, the denial of what I knew I could do, with time, study and experimentation turned me into an oppressed, bitter and jaded person till I became so sick in the spirit I had no desire to live.

Interestingly enough, as my Respect Level has grown, I repeatedly have to stand up against, not the physical oppression, but the constant onslaught of the oppression of the unconscious … a “traditional” mentor who attempted to slay with sarcasm and dismissal that writing a book was not “real work,” which I gather he has never done because he would know how much work it is … an employment “counsellor” who also attempted to dismiss “creativity” as something wives of Bruce Power husbands do because they can afford to create at their leisure and at their husband’s expense.

As I wrote yesterday in, “If I knew then what I know now …” my few previous attempts to reclaim my own identity, gifts, talents and abilities have been met with an unexpected backlash of negativity and what I now recognize as the spirit oppression by those who too were spirit oppressed but still do not know it.

All of which fuels my passion even more to raise both individual and our global Respect Level because we know what to do with the oppressors who use violence physically … we return the same on them, but as of yet, on a mass level, we have not even recognized how we are passing on the oppression by the denial of its existence and its impact on our lives and the lives of those we lead by example.

To “oppress” means to weigh heavily on the mind, spirit or senses; to keep down by the cruel or unjust use of power; tyrannize over.

Being “oppressive” is distressing, not only physically but also mentally.

When any person takes on any role of leadership, guiding and mentoring others, what would serve everyone is simply the recognition of one’s own oppression, overcoming it and helping others to do the same … so they can rise to their potential … not be limited by oppression’s weight that attempts to keep people small, limited and powerless … because keeping people small, limited and powerless is also what drives our economy … keeping our wealth capped by the those who seek their false security by their control by oppression over other people … so they feel more valued … respected.

The problem is oppressors will never ever find the peace and wealth they crave … because peace and wealth are only born of the freedom to be who we really are as unique individuals discovering, developing and delivering to the world what only we have to offer.

Ironically, in the end, the oppressors are the ones who ultimately suffer the most by the legacy of oppression they pass on … for they will never be happy, satisfied, fulfilled … and wealthy in the way that counts most … in their spirit.

June 24, 2014

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Difficult People … or Difficult World?

We have all met them. People who just rub us the wrong way … who get our back up … who we just want to say or do something to in order to let them know we do not like them, don’t approve of them, their choices, lifestyle … whatever.

In fact, as books, television, movies and the news show us, many of us even have family members we just can’t stand … and for some people their feelings about other family members even motivate them to commit crimes, even murder.

But are people being difficult for the sake of being difficult? Are people you consider difficult really difficult … or just different? And how much different?

In Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, my goal was to transform and provide a wealth of knowledge from the various fields of academic study and present them to our youth and to those who do not spend their time reading academic or even popular culture books.

As a result, one of the key components of the book presents the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) … a psychological profiling tool used by organizations and high-level academic institutions to help them secure the people with the personality type, along with other factors, best required for the role they need filled. Initially proposed by Carl Jung, one of the two forerunners of psychology, the other being Sigmund Freud, Jung suggested there were several personality types and then later, the team of Myers-Briggs took his work and made it more accessible as a psychological assessment tool. Later, other teams, such as consultants Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger made the psychological tool more accessible with their books Do What You Really Are and The Art of Speed Reading People.

The core of the MBTI is there are sixteen personality types, though primarily divided by two main key elements that are supported by other components. The key element defines how a person experiences the world as a result of the way their brain functions and processes information.

Introvert brains are highly stimulated internally and as a result, they require quieter, more removed from the mainstream work and living environments to thrive.

Extrovert brains have a much lower internal stimulus level and as a result, thrive when their environment, is bustling and filled with data their brains covert into knowledge.

You can read more about the MBTI in my book, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE or in the previous authors works, but for now, let’s just consider the accessible knowledge there are sixteen personality types, plus all the other influences of family, community, culture, financial status … plus what I call the Disrespect Philosophy that drives our unconscious conditioning, motivating us to think that a person should have to “earn or be awarded” respect … to be valued for just being a life.

Add religion, politics and the low RESPECT LEVELS of many people conditioned by the experience of being raised and living in a Disrespectful Philosophy-driven global culture and suddenly, it is easy to see it isn’t so much “difficult people” as it is a “difficult world.”

Difficult only though because one, we have been taught to not value others not like ourselves and two because, until now, we had not connected the dots to see each other differently from ourselves … and to accept not everyone has to be like us. Seeing “difficult” people through this new lens empowers us to positively change our thinking, our words and of course, our actions.

So what if we don’t like someone or approve of them? With our own increased awareness that boosts our own RESPECT LEVEL we learn our feelings or thoughts are not cause to hurt or harm with gossip, judgment, neglect or with physical violence. We learn we are just different and that difference is good, even great! Great because acknowledging our differences empowers us to more fully develop our differences, which is our potential, and as a result, to become more realized individuals … and citizens.

Difficult people? No. Just a difficult world shaped by the negative, limiting and harmful Disrespect Philosophy and supported by a lack of knowledge … till now.

June 4, 2014

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2014 blog visitors from the countries of … and what’s on the blog’s horizon

United States … Canada … United Kingdom … Australia … New Zealand … Sweden … Denmark … Switzerland … Norway … Belgium … Poland … Germany … Russia … Thailand … Italy … Vietnam … Hong Kong … Singapore … Philippines … Yemen … Pakistan … Barbados … Panama … South Africa … Israel … Kenya … Nigeria … Brazil … Mexico.

What an international journey for us all, so thank you visitors for taking this extraordinary journey with me that is just beginning! And if I missed posting your country, my apologies, plus send me a message please and I will add your country to this 2014 list.

Coming in the next weeks … some articles that further connect news and events with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, revealing The RESPECT LEVELS of each.

May 4, 2014


Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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Dynamic Duo! Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE and Suze Orman’s The MONEY CLASS

It does not matter how much money we make, without a high enough RESPECT LEVEL, we will still spend more than we make. Speaking from experience and the debt statistics, especially credit card debt and mortgage debt, many of us have at times acted like children given a free rein in a candy shop … ultimately making ourselves sick by not having a high enough RESPECT LEVEL empowering us to make good financial decisions … forcing us to feel sick to our stomach, either from all the junk we have eaten or because of the overdue bills that keep arriving in our mailbox.

Even after achieving Honours in Business Administration at age twenty-nine, I still did not get it. What I did get was a much better income and because conditioned ways of thinking about money and debt were still rooted in my mind, I also generated a lot more debt … because that is what we do, so the statistics stories say is true.

Even when I wanted to change my lifestyle and career to set my life on a better course doing what I wanted to do, the old way of thinking was still rooted deep in me and I made many more not-so-great choices that negatively affected my life and the lives of many others.

And even a few years ago, though my RESPECT LEVEL had risen some because of my dedicated efforts, I realized too late I was still facing the same foe … and though I had been free and clear of debt for years, back on the same horse I climbed and piled up debt once again that I have to get out of again.

But this time, to the rescue came an increasing RESPECT LEVEL for myself and others and a determination to break the bonds of such low thinking. One important tool aiding the mindset change is the wealth of knowledge Suze Orman provides in her 2010 book, The Money Class.

Near the end of her book, Suze’s comment that reading her book may have felt like an intense university course was right on the mark. Her book, The Money Class, is a valuable resource and guide that I studied by writing copious notes because I remember the most effectively and efficiently when I write things out. To my studies, I brought a very open and eager mind desiring to learn how to be different when it comes to my relationship with money, a willingness to acknowledge I did not know everything about money management, and in fact, the admission there was a lot I did not know, from teaching children how to manage money, to funding their college funds, when to start saving for retirement and how, plus what kind of insurance to buy for one’s lifetime.

Suze is a kind, compassionate, yet a firm teacher as her core philosophy shows: People first, money second, things third.

For years, because of my low RESPECT LEVEL, like many other people I put people first, usually ahead of myself, things second and money last but as I am building the highest RESPECT LEVEL I have ever had, my core belief about money is shifting to Suze’s philosophy on money in our lives … and one day, the financial wealth I always dreamed of but did not believe was possible will be mine, especially now that God is in the mix too. As I am discovering, The Bible has lots of financial guidance too and stories of unparalleled success when one lines up with His advice on money matters.

After my studies and transformed thoughts about money and its effective management, I firmly believe Suze’s book, The Money Class, broken down in sections, should be part of the education system from middle school to high school and onward into colleges and universities … that is, if we want a more responsible and viable economic community built on the strengths of solid financial knowledge and a high enough RESPECT LEVEL to make debt, particularly the debilitating kind, a thing of the past … I know I am and even just the idea of that freedom fills me with such peace and amazement … I so look forward to that day, yet I am also enjoying the journey of becoming debt free by starting with the changing of my mindset.

These two things alone will radically change our world for the better. I hope it does yours, for the ones you love and even for those you just respect … value … because they are people just trying to do the best they can too.

April 16, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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