As the United States of America honours those who gave their lives for freedom with Memorial Day, I hope, pray, and will continue to work to change the mindset that values … respects some people more than other people and results in everything born of that mindset that prevents freedom, harms, and even kills.
When the dominant belief in the world impairs someone’s healthy development of self, that person will naturally seek to develop a coping mechanism, often a larger ego to compensate for the feelings of not being enough … not feeling valued … respected.
Depending on the person and the level of damage to a person, a person’s ego expands to serve as compensation, but ego will only take a person so far, though for some, it can take them too far, crossing over into the delusional realm where abuse, violence, and tyranny rules their own minds and attempts to coercively rule the lives of others.
Personally discovering how acquiring knowledge diminishes ego and can foster the wisdom that puts ego in its proper place … empowering a person to recognize both the value of one’s self, but also of everyone else, inspired me to find a way and develop tools to help people whose lives are derailed by people with biases, based on their own impairment or lack of knowledge. I spent over twenty years observing, researching, and studying life, the sciences, and philosophy that resulted in the development of the “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” thesis, global initiative, and the social business venture.
However, with a personality type naturally compelled to research and study and a personal need to keep growing and healing, I did not even stop there. I also sought to understand the impact of my religious upbringing and dove into reading The Bible to get the whole truth rather than the excerpts often used for other people’s gains and for justification of prejudices. And, of course, in time I also ending up smiling when I discovered my logical, practical, and compassionate thesis not only made sense scientifically and philosophically … it also made sense spiritually and was indeed in The Bible. Here’s one example,
“Let each of you esteem (value/respect) and look upon and be concerned for not (merely) his (her) own interests, but also each for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4
Regardless of our unique beliefs, the net result is the same thesis … freedom means the right to believe as you choose … with the one caveat … if one’s beliefs infringes on another person’s beliefs and life, we, as a global community are compelled by our respect for every human’s right to be free from tyranny in any form and to act accordingly … because it is the humane thing to do.
People with inflated egos need to put down or hurt others (people or animals) in order to feel good about themselves because they have been damaged, often during their early years, but acquiring knowledge can repair the damage and even result in the wisdom that recognizes no person is more important than another person. Wisdom also recognizes that we are a global community.
Now and then a piece of news strikes a chord and reminds me of the story of the frog and the scorpion. Standing at the edge of a body of water, the scorpion asks the frog for a ride to the other side. “No, you will sting me and we will both drown,” the frog replies. However the scorpion pleads persistently and the frog agrees. Barely away from the shore the scorpion stings the frog and the frog cries out in dismay, but the scorpion’s response was “What did you expect? It’s my nature.”
The thing is we are not limited to our nature. We are human beings with the potential to rewire our thinking and change our actions. It is in our own best interests to learn how to get along, how to work together, and how to thrive together. History, as well as, knowledge and wisdom tell us this is so. Now it is up to us individually and collectively to make it so.
KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER
Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President