What We Don’t Know About Personality Types Inhibits Our Ability to Make Sound Decisions

The challenge for us all is to let people be different without punishing them for their differences … unless they are hurting, abusing, and violating a person or people for their own gain, which doesn’t even have to be monetary, but could just be about controlling others to express one’s wounded or broken spirit.

Psychology was founded with the goal to understand people in order to help them. Sigmund Freud focused on developing his methodology though one on one analysis, while Carl Jung, the other founder of the psychology movement took a different approach.

Carl Jung’s thesis resulted in further distinguishing the different types of personalities with specific traits. Later on, a mother and daughter team expanded Jung’s concept and developed what has become a standard profiling tool used to determine the best fits for jobs, especially for executive jobs and for ivy league school applicants; however, the success of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is now used more liberally to determine if a person may be a good fit for a role. In fact, I have also used the MBTI to write my company’s job descriptions for the team I will one day recruit for my social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle.

Basically the MBTI is divided into 16 characteristic groups and each person’s personality type, after answering a series of questions, is categorized as a certain type, such as, an ESTJ.

The first letter, an E or an I, represents the dominant way a person’s mind processes the world. E represents Extroverts whose minds require constant external stimulation for their brains to function optimally. They are the talkers who dominate not only conversations, but also the majority of people and environments. I represents the minority, the Introverts, whose minds are highly engaged internally, thinking all the time, so, to not become overstimulated/stressed, Introverts require a lot of quiet and/or solitude.

Fortunately, the world needs both because the Introverts are the scientists, the writers, the artists, and the creators, including entrepreneurs. Their work requires they work on their own though they often collaborate by bringing their unique talents together. Extroverts are the people who love to communicate with others to get jobs done. They work to make what’s been discovered or created a reality for the many. They sell and build houses, they manage companies, and enjoy work that engages their mind constantly externally plus taps into their other unique skills.

However, because a lot of people are unaware of the MBTI Personality Type tool and other comparable tools available to help us accept and even understand people different from us, people judge people based on their own stereotypes they have been taught, even if they are not aware of the biases they may have learned.

For instance, the other day I heard a woman being interviewed by a news team that she would not vote for Joe Biden because his soft-spoken manner made him weak to her, while Donald Trump, because he is loud and bullish is strong. Yet, as an Introvert myself, I know I am much stronger than most Extroverts I know because I study and pay attention in ways Extroverts mostly do not. As a result, Introverts often have more knowledge that makes them stronger though they may convey their strengths in different ways than dominating conversations and/or even grandstanding, but grandstanding is more likely to occur if an Extrovert is insecure and uses loud aggression to vent and/or mask insecurity.

Of course, the actions of both Extroverts and Introverts are also influenced by the other MBTI characteristics that further define one’s Personality Type, such as N for Intuitive versus S for Sensor, T for Thinker versus F for Feeler, and lastly J for Judger or P for Perceiver.

And, on top of the natural Personality Type is the profile, which basically is the reviewing on one’s childhood, youth, and life experience to date to best understand why one person with the same Personality Type can be very different from someone else with the same MBTI Personality Type.

As we mature, it is also noted that Personality Types become more balanced over time, but there are always exceptions.

One of the greatest influencers for healthy development of both types are how people are treated. When people are treated disrespectfully, made to feel bad about their differences, they will often act out based on their Personality Type. Introverts withdraw from people, whereas Extroverts hunger for attention and approval, though both, if damaged in their younger years may seek to inflict damage on others, men often one way while women often in another.

However, as witnessed again the other night on television, the biggest and consistent misconception I have observed is Extroverts describing Introverts as shy and weak because of their lack of knowledge and their preference for people just like them. But because a person is not loud and does not dominate a conversation, does not mean neither is he/she shy or weak. We Introverts prefer to think before we speak. We prefer to process not only a person’s words, but their mannerisms, and the way a person treats people.

Personally, as an Introvert who did not have this knowledge for years, I was deeply hurt and traumatized by Extroverts who misjudged, misunderstood, and harmed me greatly because of ignorance and because of the fear of someone too different from them. The result was I believed what they said and accepted how they treated me. I erroneously thought I was the problem and for years allowed people to treat me as less valuable if I did not act like them.

And sadly, the experiences broke my spirit and derailed the life I should have been living, until I did what came naturally to me … I dove into the books to understand the mess ignorance, fear, and intolerance manifested, not just to help myself, but also to help both other Introverts and the Extroverts who falsely judge Introverts because of their lack of knowledge that prohibits Extroverts from making sound decisions for their families, relationships, communities, businesses, and yes, also for their country.

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Something I have had to work on because my experiences created a lot of fear. Hope her words help you too. Thank you Marisa.

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Connecting “Prejudice” … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … Special Feature “Scientific American’s Our Unconscious Mind” Article

As with any word people can have variations on a word’s definition, but a word like prejudice is fairly straightforward. Its spelling defines its meaning. Prejudice is simply our act of pre-judging something … a person, place, experience, belief, etc., but history and the present show globally how we perceive some prejudices as small and acceptable and some as big and unacceptable, all of which are dependent on a number of variables … most of them harmful and even dangerous.

However, based on the Connecting the Dots … with the RESPECT PRINCIPLE, our prejudice variables are greatly influenced by our internalized and our community’s externalized RESPECT LEVEL.

Before proceeding, let’s keep in mind that most of what drives our unconscious thoughts and actions is a deep, negative, global conditioning I call the Disrespect Philosophy … the core belief that no one is worthy or entitled to be valued … respected … without some qualifier … without someone’s or some stamp of approval by some group … and this is the root of both our small and big prejudices … and fortuitously the January 2014 Scientific American confirms my premise that our unconscious mind drives more of our thoughts and actions than perhaps we care to acknowledge … Check this out

Journal of Scientific American
January 2014 (Psychology)

Our Unconscious Mind
Article Pages 30-37

By John A. Bargh, a professor of psychology at Yale University. His Automaticity in Cognition, Motivation and Evaluation Lab at Yale investigates unconscious influences on behavior and questions such as to the extent of what free will exists.

Unconscious impulses and desires impel what we think and do in ways Freud never dreamed of.

IN BRIEF (4 boxes on bottom of page 32)

DECISION MAKING often occurs without people giving much conscious thought to how they vote, what they buy, where they go on vacation or the way they negotiate a myriad of other life choices.

UNCONSCIOUS PROCESSES underlie the way we deliberate and plan our lives – and for good reason. Automatic judgments, for one, are essential for dodging on oncoming car or bus.

BEHAVIORS governed by the unconscious go beyond looking both ways at the corner. Embedded attitudes below the level of awareness shape many of our attitudes toward others.

SIGMUND FREUD meditated on the meaning of the unconscious throughout his career. These newer studies provide a more pragmatic perspective on how we relate to a boss or spouse.

When psychologists try to understand the way our mind works, they frequently come to a conclusion that may seem startling: people often make decisions without having given them much thought – or, more precisely, before they have thought about them consciously. When we decide how to vote, what to buy, where to go on vacation and myriad other things, unconscious thoughts that we are not even aware of typically play a big role. Research has recently brought to light just how profoundly our unconscious mind shapes our day-to-day interactions. Page 32

Post-Freudian psychology has set aside the id and the ego for a more pragmatic take on what defines our unconscious self. Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman has described the modern distinction between the automatic and the controlled. In his best-selling book, Thinking Fast and Slow
… Top left column, page 33

The unconscious way we perceive people during the course of the day is a reflexive action. We must exert wilful, conscious effort to put aside the unexplained and sometimes unwarranted negative feelings that we may harbor towards others. The stronger the unconscious influence, the harder we have to work consciously to overcome it … The ability to regulate our own behavior-whether making friends, getting up to speed at a new job or overcoming a drinking problem-depends on more than genes, temperament and social support networks. It also hinges, in no small measure, on our capacity to identify and try to overcome the automatic impulses and emotions that in influence every aspect of our waking life. To make our way in the world, we need to learn to come to terms with our unconscious self. Mid-page of page 33

When we meet someone new, we form a first impression even before striking up a conversation. We may observe the person’s race, sex or age-features that, once perceived, automatically connect to our internalized stereotypes about how members of a particular group are apt to behave. These assumptions … Bottom left column, page 33

CHECK OUT the COLOR TEST on the top right column of page 33

Unconscious thoughts and feelings influence not only the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us but also our everyday actions. Bottom right page 34

Some of the research on the unconscious and behavior focuses on the way the surrounding physical environment influences our psychological state of mind. Bottom left page 36

Why Some Social Science Studies Fail on top of page 34
…Still, the overall body of evidence collected so far clearly shows that unconscious influences on judgment, emotion, behavior and motivation are of practical importance both to society as a whole and to the everyday lives of its members.

… that means we can set aside antiquated notions of Oedipus complexes and accept the reality that the unconscious assets its presence in every moment of our lives, when we are fully awake as well as when we are absorbed in the depths of a dream.

NOW AVAILABLE online or you can watch the author talk about how the unconscious affects our behaviors at ScientificAmerican.com/jan2014/unconscious

In the end, prejudice, like unhealthy competition, compels us to constantly judge others in contrast to ourselves. When people do not mirror us and our beliefs, we pre-judge them as unworthy or wrong or even dangerous because people with low RESPECT LEVELS believe other people must be like them in order to be approved, to feel safe with and therefore worthy of respect in their interactions with them.

To end what was, awareness is the beginning, but a global culture shift in our driving unconscious Disrespect Philosophy is ultimately the change agent we need to create a better world for all life to thrive.

February 9 and 11, 2014

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