Immediate Challenge … changing government protocol in senior residences to …

… increase the RESPECT LEVEL urgently needed in senior residences, particularly long-term (nursing) homes, to more effectively manage and protect residents’ very expensive hearing aids and eyewear necessary for their everyday quality of life … before bringing Dad’s new replacement hearing aid and glasses into his long-term care residence.

That’s all for the blog today because I have lots of other writing to do … including for the above. Have a good night. And thanks for dropping by!

Best wishes.

Kaitlin

February 20, 2014

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Lobbying for “Person-Centred Care” for higher RESPECT LEVEL care in long-term (nursing) care homes

Friday, February 14, 2014, CTV’s W5 presented an 8 minute video presenting the “Person-Centred Care” model that the Sherbrooke Community Centre in Saskatoon, Manitoba, Canada uses in its daily care that is proving particularly successful in dealing with the violence resulting from Dementia patients’ acting out their fear and frustration from being forced to do what they don’t want to do or are frightened of doing. My comment posted on CTV’s website and in the next paragraph explains why I am lobbying for the “Person-Centred Care” for higher RESPECT LEVEL care in long-term (nursing) homes.

For the past two years, I’ve been dedicated to helping my Dad with his Alzheimer and Dementia care needs. Over medication and medication side effects first turned him into a drooling zombie, then almost killed him by disorienting him to the degree he got lost and was not reported missing at mealtime and would have died from hypothermia if a local family hadn’t found him on their property and then after the introduction of another drug in a new residence, he fell over 25 times because he could not rest even when exhausted because of the severe agitation and restlessness that prevented him from sitting in a wheelchair when he was tired. Several of his falls resulted in sutures and staples to his head plus he fell into and broke a window. Since he was moved to another home late October and was taken off that drug, he has only had a few falls and is even more lucid than before medication was prescribed to him. After seeing this video, I will be using it and Sherbrooke’s logical, practical and compassionate care model while I lobby for this personal care model, in partnership with my local MPP.

Read more: http://www.ctvnews.ca/w5/saskatoon-care-home-offers-unique-approach-for-residents-with-dementia-1.1686936/comments-7.485425#ixzz2tmg2VvTf

Because after all … shouldn’t all care be “person-centred care?”

February 19, 2014

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CTV’s findings from two-year investigation into the national crisis of violence in long-term (nursing) homes

The story ran on Friday on television and is still available on their website and I’m writing about it for you, your loved ones and for the quality of life we want for all people.

“Person-centred care” makes living at Sherbrooke Community Centre in Saskatoon “respect full.” A daycare, interaction with children, pets, family home design, music and arts, 2 staff per 10 residents translate into less psychotropic drugs and a significant increase in quality of life, including “Rementia” instead of “Dementia.” The founder has also been awarded a Meritous Award from the government for her ground-breaking work. For you and your loved ones, check out the full story on CTV’s website that resulted from their two-year investigation into violence in long-term care homes.

February 17, 2014

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Bullying … The “Disrespect Philosophy’s” Enforcer

From a secular view, the dominant philosophy that has shaped humans since the beginning of time is Disrespect.

The Disrespect Philosophy is simple. Its premise is that no person or life is valuable until someone says it is … based on what that someone, or a collective of “someones” say what is to be valued … respected.

In other words, the Disrespect Philosophy is about control: control that is misunderstood in contrast to true power. Control simply is a lack of trust in and of the world for life to be fair, for resources to be available to all … which all of our fears are driven by … thereby creating a low RESPECT LEVEL that we have been conditioned to use to fill the void of not feeling valued … respected in the Disrespect Philosophy world humanity has been living in for thousands of years … because not enough of us have connected the dots to see what we keep recreating … which, by the way, the Disrespect Philosophy strives to do in order to keep itself and its enforcers in power.

The guard and enforcer of the Disrespect Philosophy is bullying: the means used to coerce others into accepting the Disrespect Philosophy without question. How? Simply by the conviction we are taught that no one is valuable unless someone(s) says they are and the qualifiers for being considered valuable are based on the whims of those who have put themselves in positions of power to control.

Without high enough RESPECT LEVELS in families, family members are subject to the negative conditioning and the power struggle ensues. Those who take power do so by bullying. Sometimes subtle, often ingenious, sometimes emotional, psychological or physical, bullying comes in all shapes and sizes and affects, because of our lack of awareness of the Disrespect Philosophy, everyone.

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a personality profiling system presented by Carl Jung and further developed by the Myers – Briggs team. The fundamental basis of the MBTI is there are two primary personality types: Extroverts (E) and Introverts (I). According to the MBTI, Extroverts’ brains require primarily external stimulus for their brains to work at their best, while Introverts brains, on the contrary, often need a fair amount of time to work and be alone because of the constant internal stimulation in their brains they have to contend with.

There are two significant challenges the contrasting types brings to our world. One, the world is dominated in sheer numbers by the Extroverts and two, as a result the Extroverts, in a Disrespect Philosophy driven world want the rest of the world to be like them … and as a result, the enforcers … the bullies become conditioned at a very young age.

Not that only E’s become bullies, I’s do also, but more from reaction than action.

The reason is the Introverts are more driven by their brains to reflect, plus research, study, and analyze differences and as a result tend to be more understanding and often accepting of other people’s differences. Extraverts, on the other hand, will often respond to Introverts’ quietness, reserve and withdrawal as a rejection of them and in our Disrespect Philosophy world take the I’s actions personally … and the battles begin by employing the different methods of bullying: prejudging, teasing, belittling, tormenting, harassing, rejecting, isolating, neglecting, violating, abusing, and killing … spirits as well bodies.

Many Introverts, especially those with the dominant function of “Feeling” will often withdraw inward further or may even remove themselves physically to avoid battles with Extroverts which they will seldom win fighting in the Extraverted bullying manner … but, instead will use time and strategies to fight such battles. Without high RESPECT LEVELS, it is a lose lose proposition for both.

Extroverted bullies need audiences; Introverted bullies eventually seek quiet revenge … yet since we are driven to be more Extroverted to be in our Disrespect Philosophy driven world, Extroverts and Introverts can act very contrary to their natural, inherent personality type.

What happens in our childhood years does not stay in our childhood years … including the bullying (conditional love) we have been shaped by … it follows us no matter where we go … school, community, work, and into all of our relationships. The only way we become free from the Disrespect Philosophy enforcer, bullying, is to recognize it for what it is … something that strives to make us feel less valuable than everyone else so we bully others to make ourselves feel more valuable than others and therefore keep the world spinning out of control by the chaos maker, the Disrespect Philosophy.

We are valuable … each and every one of us for the unique gifts, talents and strengths we have to contribute to help make the world, including our personal and private worlds, better places to live … to thrive.

December 16, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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“You are not defined …”

“You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past.”

This passage from #1 New York Bestselling Author Joel Osteen’s book, Break Out, struck a deep chord within me yesterday as I am “breaking free,” like the DARK HORSE I became after my first attempt almost twenty years ago to become who I really am … a very unique individual with an unconventional personality type, perspective, and a drive for a different life from the “normal” I was born into and lived in most of my life … at great cost to myself and to my family and society … because when we do not live true to our heart, our heart will close its doors to living a life that is a lie because it is not a reflection of who we really are … and ultimately we all lose when we treat ourselves so disrespectfully.

Like you, I am not defined by my past, but it has certainly prepared me for my future … the one in my heart I have always known I am meant to be … and the one I am embracing as I move forward into the life my heart tells me I am destined to live.

Thank you “past” for my “future.” And thank you Joel Osteen for being the writer and messenger you are too.

December 11, 2013

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Transparency Dissolves Assumptions, Speculation … Reveals Truth

Strange filing for Employment Insurance after all these years of working poverty wage jobs … but I’m grateful for the opportunity to receive the benefits now that Dad’s special needs care is finally being met in his new, albeit the third, residence in the past year and a half.

The benefits will enable me the opportunity to secure work/income above the poverty wage level for a change so I can help Dad financially because the costs are beyond his pension and benefits, so I can give back to my brother for helping me out by letting me stay with him since May to be able to help Dad and to have a roof over my head and so I can build a better life for myself too, using all of my education and experience … such as …

My writing and communication skills as demonstrated by the writing of both a fiction and a non-fiction book in less than one year, this past one, my public speaking and performance experience, my visual arts, design and communications arts education and experience, my psychology, humanities, philosophy formal and self-directed research and studies, supported by my Business Administration, Honors education and experience, plus all my years of volunteering including roles such as being a JUMP Math Tutor for a grade five student, a side walker and lead for CARD, a facility that uses horses as therapy for people with disabilities … and much more.

Time to look up and really move forward, respecting and serving myself, as well as others.

ON THAT NOTE …

Just received National Novel Writing Month notification of all the prizes to be collected by authors who completed the November challenge. Most of the prizes are discounts off products such as the software Scrivener for writers, but also I can acquire 2 free paperback copies of my book, DARK HORSES, if I submit my book after its revisions and editing by December 31, 2013. There are also contests my manuscript can be submitted to … one includes a $15,000 book advance and a publishing package deal …

In other words, writing, editing, and job searching now fills my days, plus visits to Dad, such as the one my brother, niece and I had late on Wednesday. Dad really is doing so much better, it is kind of hard to believe what he, and all of us, have had to go through this past year and a half. Still, I am glad and grateful I had over the past two years with him, especially since now I don’t know where I’ll be moving to next … but I can go now, knowing I’ve done a good job, he’s in good hands and I’ll be able to help him now in a new way … financially too.

December 6, 2013

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Headline Flash Seen on TV Today … Snooping on Kids to Prevent Tragedy

An oxymoron. When we snoop on kids, we teach them it is permissible to snoop on others … to invade other people’s privacy and space … and then we wonder why they do not grow up with healthy, respectful boundaries for themselves and for others.

If we truly want to prevent tragedy, foremost we need to teach children and teens about different RESPECT LEVELS … and the choices and consequences of all levels … so they can think, choose, and act with the RESPECT LEVEL they want to generate the results they want … empowering them to make good decisions no matter what challenges are presented to them and who is presenting the challenge.

Connecting the Dots … If we do not want youth to go through our personal things, we have to show them the same Respect Level because how we treat them is how they will treat us, others, themselves and how they will let other people treat them.

Connecting the Dots … If an eight-year old child was approached at school and told by a neighbour they were supposed to go home with the neighbour, a RESPECT-FILLED child would know they have the right to go the Principal’s office to check with her or his parent(s) and the Principal before leaving unannounced with someone.

Connecting the Dots … If a fourteen-year old teen was approached on the street by someone in a car to go for a ride alone, a RESPECT-FILLED teen would know how to handle such an approach, inclusive of telling trusted adults.

Connecting the Dots … If a sixteen year old boy was being tormented for his unusual attire and looks, a RESPECT-FILLED boy would be strong enough to withstand the teasing and would gather support to get the behavior be stopped before yet another life was taken by his or others’ hands.

… etc. etc. etc.

In order to teach kids how to connect the dots we have to see and do things differently too as we learn to connect the dots to generate the results we want to see.

October 28, 2013

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Connecting the Dots … with Healthcare

Though our Canadian healthcare system is more than what some people even have, like anything else, there is always room to grow and change to become more effective, efficient … and compassionate.

Though I had not seen much of my Dad since my Mom and he separated and he moved on with his new life, I moved back to Kincardine in August of 2011, to help him with his transitions based on his developing healthcare needs.

During the two plus years since I have been here, Dad has been forced out of his home by his wife who could not look after him because of her own challenges plus because his needs required more constant care and attention than just bringing in a support person for a few hours could do.

Dad was moved into a retirement home in July and by the next April, after an incident and a brief hospital stay, was then moved to the second choice of two nursing/long-term care facilities and just seven months later, just a few days ago, was moved into our first choice nursing/long-term care home.

Other than the changes in our Dad, what has astounded me the most are the efforts required, not to care of him as much as the duplication, triplication etc. required to convey information to so many different groups of people and not just to the three different places he has lived.

Like most jobs I have done, my analytic, creative and helpful nature not only provides me with strong observational skills, but also the ability to often provide viable suggestions to help make things better … to fill in the cracks and gaps so what was in place, grows, like we need to, in order to keep meeting the changing needs and to make the lives impacted better.

As a result, instead of writing an article or two about the gaps and cracks, I am taking on the challenge two healthcare professionals have pressed me to do … to continue with my advocacy, though rather than in scattered efforts, I have decided a comprehensive book would best reach, not just the healthcare system, but those who rely on it … because then we can get everyone connected and focused on where people, our loved ones, are not getting what they need and in some cases, are being disrespected and even being harmed.

This is one of the two books I expect to be working on this winter. The other is the fiction, DARK HORSES, the complimentary behind-the-scenes story of why and how Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book and global initiative was developed.

I will keep you posted on the book’s status, publication date and publisher.

October 28, 2013

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No One is More Valuable Than You

It has been said many, many, many times, that parenting is the most important job in the world. It has also been said that a nation’s leader holds the most important job. Emergency workers who put their lives on the line for us such as firemen, policemen and soldiers also do the most important jobs. Doctors and nurses who save lives are also top of the list.

Yet, what about the parents who daily go to jobs they are not passionate about, but do, because they are passionate about providing the best for their children? Yet what about the cleaners who keep their work environments safe and clean for them to do their jobs? What about the people who create the businesses that provide jobs? What about the scientists and researchers who spend much of their life in remote areas or isolation to concentrate on solving important problem such as cures for cancer or developing greener technology so we limit the destruction of the environment that enables us to live. What about the people who save other people from horrific conditions such as human trafficking and genocide; who go to countries, even when that means putting their own lives at stake, to fight wars, to report on conditions, to bring food, to dig wells, build schools. What about people without children yet who dedicate their lives to improving the quality of life of children? What about the child of an aging parent who puts their life on hold to help their loved one experience the best transition possible before they leave this life? What about the people who build our homes, teach our children, minister our spiritual lives, create entertainment, write stories, investigate to solve problems, run our governments, manage our money and resources, find missing people and pets …

Examination of life on this world reminds us that it takes all of us, with our unique talents, strengths and abilities to keep the world running every day. Yes, we know there are problems. Yes, we know we don’t have all the answers. Yet, we can all stop to consider the idea everyone is valuable … worthy of RESPECT … for just being a life, so we can stop trying to measure our value over others by competing when such competition takes our energy away from just becoming the best unique individual we can be so we can share who we really are to help make the world a better place for us, our loved ones and everyone else’s loved ones to live in during our brief time on this planet we call earth … and home.

October 17, 2013

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We Can’t Win If We Don’t Play … and Play Means Taking Risks

There are lots of experiences in my life that I would rather not have experienced, including the current one I wrote about yesterday regarding Dad and I needing not only your prayers, but your financial help.

With great emotional difficulty, including the swallowing of more of my pride built up to withstand the blows of judgment and rejection during my lifetime, I wrote the request for your help.

In response, one person texted they had mailed a cheque, for which I am very grateful.

Additionally though, God’s answer also included help for Dad’s other needs … his care needs. The several hours I spent with Dad on Sunday were exhaustive because of his ever-present intense drive to ride or walk, plus his frustration with his circumstances conveyed by his demands to come home.

Then Thanksgiving Monday, I received a call regarding yet another fall and a request for me to come yet manage Dad again because the nursing home, as usual, did not have the staff to engage him one-on-one to keep him safe. My Dad’s wife and I arrived shortly after lunch and found him sleeping, but since we drove out there, as with other times, we woke him to take him for a visit during a country ride. Yet this time, when he arose from his bed, we discovered the two-inch pool of blood spotting his pillow, leaked from the same place on his skull he has banged open three times before, though this time he did not require an emergency room visit or staples or sutures.

Tuesday morning, Pinecrest Manor called again, only this time to inform me the Owen Sound Geriatric Assessment Team was coming to meet with Dad, staff and me, so off to Pinecrest again Dad’s wife and I went. We joined Dad for lunch and then afterwards, for two hours I sat with a team member and a Pinecrest nurse to provide them with an extensive history of Dad’s life from being born in Tilbury, Ontario to the in-depth time Dad and I have spent together the past two and a quarter years. His second wife filled in some of the gaps too.

Finally, finally, finally, even though I have not been able to convince the medical community to recognize the benefits to be reaped if he had a nurse visit every day to monitor his vitals, work with the dietitian and the home staff, so it could be determined if his “special needs” are a result of more than the effects of Alzheimers and Dementia, at least, his condition is going to be evaluated today by a team of external medical professionals, including a geriatric physician and two specialists from London, whom, I was told, in all probability will prescribe additional medication … to not “zombie” him out like he had been before, but just to help him rest enough so he stops injuring himself from falls experienced because he is over tired yet determinedly stays mobile putting not only himself, but other residents and staff at risk too.

Finally, until I can afford to pay for someone to visit him every day to engage him personally, I will be freed from constantly having to be alert and available to drive out to Lucknow at the drop of a hat, as I have had to the past three days, to do my best to manage Dad for the Manor. Finally, I am relieved because I know I have done my best to ensure that what happened to him last Easter Sunday … being overmedicated that resulted in great harm to him and an unnecessary traumatic near-death experience … won’t happen again, so I can finally move forward myself.

Now the questions to be answered are do I move to Lucknow to be within walking distance during the winter months … or elsewhere? Will he now live longer because the meds will slow him down? Am I freed to move wherever I want or am I still to be close for when his time finally comes? But then again, believing as I now do, with ever-growing stronger faith, I can trust where I need to be is where I will be and if I am the one to be with Dad during his passing, God will get me to Dad when I need to be with him … and if not, he will get the person who needs to be with him to him at his greatest time of need is what my growing Respect Level for myself … and as a result, for other people has done for me, along with my return to faith which has stopped me from feeling alone in this world and is teaching me also to lean on God first, who then uses the people best able to do what he wants done.

Hmmm … imagine that … winning by playing … not sitting on the sidelines, playing it safe and comfy. It really is true that taking all the risks, quitting two jobs, going into debt, in order to get my Dad the best he needs, including the two close years we’ve shared … worth it, worth it, worth it … or at the ad says, “priceless” no matter the short-term discomfort for me.

Much has been learned and experienced, so this morning, as with every morning now, I am grateful for everything.

October 16, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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