“Antisociality Encourages SELF-SUFFICIENCY”

Caught up in the expectations of others at a young age, I didn’t discover and develop my natural talents until I grew frustrated, disappointed, and jaded with life. Marked by migraines and stomach problems, plus addictions such as busyness, shopping, and needing people’s approval, I finally hit the wall of not being able to continue the life I had become entangled in.

Wanting to change my life because of the discovery of what I really wanted to do with my life meant breaking up other people’s lives. My husband of nineteen years wanted me to stay the same as did everyone else I knew at the time.

But then I met a man at a new job who liked me for the person I was discovering myself to be. When I left my husband and everything else behind, the man’s words, “You’ll love being alone” I didn’t understand because I wanted to be with him.

He was right, though for years I didn’t love being alone, until one day I did. No longer feeling pulled apart by people’s expectations, my journey of self-discovery revealed things about myself I did not know, some of which I liked and some I did not. A lot of exploration, taking chances, and making mistakes revealed I was stronger and more capable than I had come to believe years before. Rebellion was replaced with independence and self-sufficiency. A strong heart replaced a broken one. A lost identity was found.

And the love for that man stayed with me, transforming me from someone who had not known how to love myself or another in a healthy, functional way to someone who can.

So being antisocial for a while was a good thing … one I’d recommend to anyone, though not getting caught up in everyone’s expectations at all may mean you won’t have to traverse the rocky road of rediscovering and reclaiming one’s true identity and best choices for your best life.

The above post was inspired by the following linked article “When It’s Good to be Antisocial”  by Silvia Golombeanu for Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/when-it-s-good-to-be-antisocial?utm_source=pocket-newtab

 KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 28, 2019

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“RECLAIMING FRIENDSHIP: A Visual Taxonomy of Platonic Relationships to Counter the Commodification of the Word “Friend””

Being “liked” on social media is nice … however, having a real friend who likes, accepts, and forgives our not being perfect is rare and far beyond just being nice. It is what we all hunger for in a world that is becoming less tangibly real.

Read Maria Popova’s Brainpickings article shared on Pocket @

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/reclaiming-friendship-a-visual-taxonomy-of-platonic-relationships-to-counter-the-commodification-of?utm_source=pocket-newtab

Also check out the Merriam-Webster’s dictionary definitions to pick the type of friend you want to have and want to be …

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/friend

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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April 12, 2019

“The PSYCHOLOGY of WRITING and the Cognitive Science of the Perfect Daily Routine”

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-psychology-of-writing-and-the-cognitive-science-of-the-perfect-daily-routine

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Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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April 10, 2019

“Stop Doing LOW VALUE WORK”

By Priscilla Clamon for Harvard Business Review on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/stop-doing-low-value-workhttps://getpocket.com/explore/item/stop-doing-low-value-work

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April 5, 2019

“Without even realizing it, we can nudge others towards success” … or not

By Shane Parrish for Farnam Street on Pocket

“The Pygmalion effect is a powerful secret weapon. Who wouldn’t want to help their children get smarter, help employees and leaders be more competent, and generally push others to do well? That’s possible if we raise our standards and see others in the best possible light. It is not necessary to actively attempt to intervene. Without even realizing it, we can nudge others towards success. If that sounds too good to be true, remember that the effect holds up for everything from rats to CEOs.”

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-pygmalion-effect-proving-them-right

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April 1, 2019

“Pressure Doesn’t Have to Turn into Stress”

By Nicholas Petrie for Harvard Business Review on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/pressure-doesn-t-have-to-turn-into-stress

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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March 2019

“EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: The Social Skills You Weren’t Taught in School”

March 2019 bBy Eric Ravenscroft for Lifehacker on Pocket

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/emotional-intelligence-the-social-skills-you-weren-t-taught-in-school

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Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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March 2019