The Wonder of Blooming Into Our Unique Potential … A Personal Story

Wow, what changes in me!

For years, I disliked drawing any attention to myself, whether having to speak in a classroom or to lead a meeting, because I was insecure, nervous, and even scared.

Plus, I am more naturally introverted, though I can be quite extroverted at times.

Earlier in my life I was more likely to be more extroverted when it came to standing up for others because I got very angry at those who hurt others in any way and/or being defiant because I did not know how to stand up for myself in a good way.

Thankfully I have changed considerably, in many ways, since my “Respect Level” rose high enough for me to realize it is okay and even important to stand up for one’s self … to demonstrate equal respect for one’s self as much as for others.

I am grateful also for my early years’ employers, who saw my potential and encouraged me to step up by placing me in leadership roles at a young age, for other subsequent opportunities that forced me to step out of my comfort zone to speak up, and for the three Toastmasters’ groups I participated in over the years, whose non-stop speaking opportunities helped me overcome my public speaking discomfort.

Why was public speaking something I had to be comfortable with? Because I somehow knew public speaking would be an important skill I would need in the future as I would continue to stand up and speak for those who cannot, for whatever reason, speak up for themselves yet.

Now in preparation to explain to the world why and the benefits of adopting respect as a global principle with my TED Talk, I am grateful to all who are helping me, including Bridgette Raes below, become the public speaker and the company leader “Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle” needs for everyone to feel valuable … respected … in order to become also who they are meant to be.


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Any one-sided perspective that does not allow other people to choose based on their free will … is not a symbol of freedom, but a symbol of one person or group’s need to have everyone be like them so they feel okay with their beliefs.

The most powerful leaders do not lead by fear, but by the strength of their character … their beliefs … their heart … and compassion for those they lead … yet also serve by leading.

The “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept was designed to surpass the barriers of religion, politics, race, etc. because as evidenced by the world, humanity struggles with the concept of valuing … respecting … others who are not in agreement with them, who do not reflect their choices, with believing they have to like or approve of everyone in the world.

Valuing … respecting a person or a group of people simply means to live and let live … to be humane .. to help others less fortunate than ourselves … to protect those who cannot protect themselves … to actively engage in the world we live … connecting the dots that reveals the big picture … what we do to others or do not do will impact our own lives somewhere down the line.

Based on The Bible, the living word Christians believe in, other than Christmas, and even more so, this is the most important two days of the year … when Christ was crucified on Good Friday and was resurrected on Easter Sunday.

If we could grow past our history … if we could at least unite and adopt the one concept, that all life is valuable … worthy of respect … we could obliterate the prejudices that not only separate us and compel some people to harm, imprison, and even kill those who don’t share their beliefs, we could create an economic balance previously unseen and would empower the human race to move past the limitations imposed by prejudices.

Making someone wrong through prejudice does not make someone else right … it makes two wrongs.

When we are willing to see beyond ourselves, we start to connect the dots and see the bigger picture of the world … and when we start to see our place in the world as someone valuable … entitled to respect for just being a life, we gain the ability to see others the same way … and we see our place in the world as valid and important as everyone else … because regardless of what you have, own, take … we all come into this world in the same way and we go out the same way … with nothing but what is in our hearts and minds. If we do not give other people the freedom and right to choose their own beliefs that do not harm others, then what we have is not freedom … instead we are bound by the prison of prejudice till we free others … and ourselves.

Though I was raised a Catholic, for several reasons I rejected the religion at an early ago and studied other religions and philosophies. In fact, so influenced by our culture’s strong reliance, almost religious fanaticism on science and my negative experiences with religion, the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” was developed because of its logic, practicality, and even its dispassionate compassion.

Still, I found the concept, like many other religions and philosophies, did not satisfy a deeper yearning inside of me … the more profound that seeks deeper answers … so in the past few years I returned to Christianity by studying The Bible for myself and surprises abounded … especially surprises that generated freedom from judging and condemning others, peace, hope, and more positive feelings than I have ever experienced in my lifetime. I share this because I know from experience how both concepts, one scientific and philosophical and the other spiritual, not religious, are transforming me from being a hurt, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and angry woman into a healed, whole, more peaceful, and if not always loving, at least a respectful woman … who values other people and their differences and who works to find ways to bring more peace to the world, to encourage the ongoing development of potential, and to help us all connect to co-create a better world for each and every person … because both concepts have taught me everyone comes into this world with unique gifts, talents, and abilities intended to contribute to good of the whole … if we show them how by example and by our support.

This Easter weekend, my question is “What have your beliefs taught and yielded for you?”

April 4, 2015


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We cannot control, especially in a rapidly developing technological world, what children or anyone of any age, will learn … this can be a good thing, especially because the knowledge people need to realize more of their potential is increasingly at their fingertips … and no longer exclusively available to the few who could afford higher-level education.

To take advantage of the wealth of knowledge available to develop our potential to our and our children’s upmost capabilities, we must accept that no matter what a school’s curriculum is, what matters most is, as it is for all of us, what we do with what we read, hear, see … and experience.

Children are learning at all times. Their brains are like sponges, soaking up everything they see, hear, feel, and experience. They absorb how you talk to them, touch them, and treat them. They absorb how you interact with others … how you talk to … and about other people. They soak up every little nuance … they develop their personal beliefs based on their observations and experiences … personal beliefs that will direct how they process the information they receive from the outside world … in school, in their community, on television, and on the world wide web.

The most important knowledge children need from parents is the knowledge how to process and manage all the data and information they are bombarded with from all sources … but more importantly, the most important guide and tool children … we all need … is to know … deep in our hearts and souls … that we are valuable … worthy of respect … as is everyone else … and with the personal belief … wisdom … children … all of us … are empowered to sift through all the data, information, and knowledge so we can transform it with our personal beliefs into the gold that will enable every individual to continuously strive to learn … and as a result, to continuously, throughout one’s whole life, to develop into the person one is capable of being because of one’s natural gifts, talents, abilities … one’s personal belief that they are valuable … worthy of respect … for being the unique individual they are.

Which ultimately means parents, as well as their children, need to keep learning … to keep growing … to continuously take in new knowledge … to change … adapt … and grow … teaching their children the most valuable lesson of all … life is a journey … there will be many challenges and hurdles … many joys and victories … yet, no matter what … who they are is not based on what has the power to shape them … but what they choose to shape them.

Though a school curriculum is important, in reality, it is an increasingly smaller piece of the world that can shape a life … because there are also the teachers … how the information is presented … the school’s environment … etc. etc. etc. We cannot control all a child or anyone is going to exposed to … and nor should we … because we would stagnate as individuals … and as a global community … but what we can control is the most important.

We all need to, especially parents, focus on building a high “Respect-Level” in ourselves so children will develop the same or an even higher “Respect Level” … because then, as a result, no matter what they encounter in the outside world, we can be confident they are prepared with the best education they need to be successful in managing what the world throws at them … in a formal classroom or the classroom of life.

February 25, 2015

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