When We Expect People to Be Like Us …

When we expect people to be like us, we do not allow people to be themselves; therefore we make life more difficult for us all. Of course there are important social norms that allow us to function as a collective, but when those social norms restrict individuality, those same social norms inhibit or prevent our ability to be humane.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Writer, Founder and President of

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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August 12, 2019

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The Big Picture … Respect Values … Disrespect Devalues … and Even Kills

Prejudice manifests fear and hate anywhere and everywhere in the world, so it doesn’t what walls are built … instead what needs to be built is everyone’s ability to live and let live peacefully …to value every life simply for being a life … not because we like or accept or approve of others … because we don’t have to … anymore than anyone else has to like or accept or approve us. This is the only way we will all be safe. Interestingly enough it is also the most efficient and effective tool, making it the most logical, practical, and compassionate solution to terrorism and many other challenges our world faces.

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… and even kills.

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Condolences to all.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

Smashwords interview @  www.smashwords.com

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March 15, 2019

 

WHEN WE CAN’T LOVE PEOPLE … Because We Judge, Don’t Approve, or Like Them, We need to at Least Learn How to LIVE AND LET LIVE … RESPECTING Every Person’s Right to Choose

On the news today, 20 km north of my birthplace, Chatham, ON, someone or a group of people posted a sign about God forbidding abortions and homosexuality. Someone else or a group of people took the sign down as it is now reported gone.
This type of thing was a key driving force in my decision to study the Bible on my own because I could not understand why Christians could be so hypocritical, disrespectful, mean, and downright vicious.
The Bible story of the woman caught committing adultery comes to mind. She is brought to Jesus by a crowd of men who tell Jesus the punishment for an adulterous is stoning. Jesus pauses, bends down, writes in the dirt, and then replies with whomever has not sinned (done things God doesn’t like,but forgives with his merciful love), let him cast the first stone. Jesus then asks the woman if anyone remained and she replies no. Jesus then says who is he to judge either, but to go and sin no more.
The Bible contains a lot of do’s and don’ts, but taken out of context or extracted to justify one’s disrespect to another, means we don’t get the big picture … Jesus died to give us peace and God loves us unconditionally so we can learn to do the same for others. Anything less is not what God asks of us all.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

CONNECTING THE DOTS WITH THE RESPECT PRINCIPLE

Founder Entrepreneur Author Artist and Speaker  

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FREEDOM ISN’T FREEDOM … IF WE DON’T GIVE OTHER PEOPLE THE “RIGHT TO CHOOSE”

Any one-sided perspective that does not allow other people to choose based on their free will … is not a symbol of freedom, but a symbol of one person or group’s need to have everyone be like them so they feel okay with their beliefs.

The most powerful leaders do not lead by fear, but by the strength of their character … their beliefs … their heart … and compassion for those they lead … yet also serve by leading.

The “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” concept was designed to surpass the barriers of religion, politics, race, etc. because as evidenced by the world, humanity struggles with the concept of valuing … respecting … others who are not in agreement with them, who do not reflect their choices, with believing they have to like or approve of everyone in the world.

Valuing … respecting a person or a group of people simply means to live and let live … to be humane .. to help others less fortunate than ourselves … to protect those who cannot protect themselves … to actively engage in the world we live … connecting the dots that reveals the big picture … what we do to others or do not do will impact our own lives somewhere down the line.

Based on The Bible, the living word Christians believe in, other than Christmas, and even more so, this is the most important two days of the year … when Christ was crucified on Good Friday and was resurrected on Easter Sunday.

If we could grow past our history … if we could at least unite and adopt the one concept, that all life is valuable … worthy of respect … we could obliterate the prejudices that not only separate us and compel some people to harm, imprison, and even kill those who don’t share their beliefs, we could create an economic balance previously unseen and would empower the human race to move past the limitations imposed by prejudices.

Making someone wrong through prejudice does not make someone else right … it makes two wrongs.

When we are willing to see beyond ourselves, we start to connect the dots and see the bigger picture of the world … and when we start to see our place in the world as someone valuable … entitled to respect for just being a life, we gain the ability to see others the same way … and we see our place in the world as valid and important as everyone else … because regardless of what you have, own, take … we all come into this world in the same way and we go out the same way … with nothing but what is in our hearts and minds. If we do not give other people the freedom and right to choose their own beliefs that do not harm others, then what we have is not freedom … instead we are bound by the prison of prejudice till we free others … and ourselves.

Though I was raised a Catholic, for several reasons I rejected the religion at an early ago and studied other religions and philosophies. In fact, so influenced by our culture’s strong reliance, almost religious fanaticism on science and my negative experiences with religion, the “Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” was developed because of its logic, practicality, and even its dispassionate compassion.

Still, I found the concept, like many other religions and philosophies, did not satisfy a deeper yearning inside of me … the more profound that seeks deeper answers … so in the past few years I returned to Christianity by studying The Bible for myself and surprises abounded … especially surprises that generated freedom from judging and condemning others, peace, hope, and more positive feelings than I have ever experienced in my lifetime. I share this because I know from experience how both concepts, one scientific and philosophical and the other spiritual, not religious, are transforming me from being a hurt, frustrated, depressed, fearful, and angry woman into a healed, whole, more peaceful, and if not always loving, at least a respectful woman … who values other people and their differences and who works to find ways to bring more peace to the world, to encourage the ongoing development of potential, and to help us all connect to co-create a better world for each and every person … because both concepts have taught me everyone comes into this world with unique gifts, talents, and abilities intended to contribute to good of the whole … if we show them how by example and by our support.

This Easter weekend, my question is “What have your beliefs taught and yielded for you?”

April 4, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER

Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration with the global initiative and core book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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Not a God Believer? Then you definitely want … need … the one non-political … non-religious … non racial …

Not a God Believer? I was not most of my life either. In fact, though I had been raised Catholic, my experiences pushed me so far away from any religion based on God.

At first I turned to the opposing dark side of what I had been taught … out of pain, anger, and frustration.

Eventually though, like many people today, I turned to the new world religion … science. The belief in what can be seen, analyzed, proven or at the very least was logical. I dove so deep into the sciences … the hard applied … and the soft … the theoretical and left spiritual concepts of any construct aside.

Till I didn’t, that is. Curiosity compelled me to reach beyond the sciences to philosophy and the many conjectural new age spirituality trains of thought … which held my interest for some time … but once again I returned to the sciences in the search for one concept that was logical and practical … that was not heavily-laden with specific religious, political, racial, or any prejudicial influence, but was just logical and practical … and therefore a viable idea to create a better world … for everybody.

That is how the more than science, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, was developed … as a simple core belief to live by whose positive results are revealed through the observation and analysis of the results … valuing … respecting … each other creates for us individually and collectively.

You don’t have to believe what I now believe about God … that he is indeed good and loves unconditionally … that is your choice; however, I do ask you to consider how you want to be treated in the world? Your loved ones too? Do you want to experience prejudice for your differences? Or do you want to have to hide your differences out of fear of how you or your loved ones will be treated? But what if you or your loved ones can’t hide your differences because they are visible … in your skin color … your income level … social status … physical dif-abilities?

Our world grows smaller every day with technology. In our world driven by the Disrespect Philosophy … no one is valuable unless someone or some group says so … the opposite of the Respect PhilosophyThe RESPECT PRINCIPLE … that all life is valuable, we take chances every day that someone might not like what we say … do … or write on the web … so we can continue to live in fear, hide or just pretend all is okay, hoping terror will never impact us … but that kind of living is not fulfilling and creates a false sense of security … it is a prison that we allow to keep us captive.

The only way we can tear down the prison walls the Disrespect Philosophy throws up is to establish a new foundation … that does not build walls to separate and imprison us … but that is expansive and inclusive enough to support us all as we begin to develop more than the 10% of our brains to create a better world.

Want proof of what’s ruling our lives? Watch the news … and decide which philosophy you want in your and your loved ones lives … and then act … support as best you can the transformation from disrespect to respect … learn how by supporting publication of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE for school and community study coming soon on the crowdfunding platform, Indiegogo, and/or the workshop production and filming of the school play and community event, CHARLES’CHOICE, based on and inspired by the book and global initiative, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE now seeking backers on the crowdfunding platform, KICKSTARTER.

Like Charles, make your choice … now. We need you to make the change happen!

January 7, 2015

KAITLIN A. TREPANIER
The RESPECT SPECIALIST & PEACEMAKER … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT!

ORDER the powerful little book Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE
PURCHASE the performance rights for CHARLES’ CHOICE for your school and community
FUND the KICKSTARTER-approved project … the workshop and production of CHARLES’ CHOICE … between January 5th and 25th 2015

… BECAUSE every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.

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