Every day we live is a day to remember

What kind of day depends on many things.

Things we cannot control…

  • Who loves us
  • Who does not love us
  • Who values … respect us
  • What people think of us
  • What people say about us
  • How people treat us
  • Our surroundings
  • Our circumstances
  • The state of our community
  • The state of our country
  • The state of the world

Things we can control

  • Whom we love
  • Whom we love who does not love us
  • Whom we value … respect
  • What we think of people
  • What we say about people
  • How we treat people
  • How we deal with our surroundings
  • How we deal with our circumstances
  • How we impact our community
  • How we impact our nation
  • How we impact the world

Everyone contributes to the world we share because everyone matters

How does not even matter as much as why we do what we do

Because at the end of the day peace only comes to those whose motives are good


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July 16, 2018




If Our Beliefs Don’t Provide …

If our beliefs don’t provide us with a joyful, satisfying life, that is often the indicator it is time to reconsider our beliefs.

Worked for me.

A growing “Respect Level” for myself, as well as, others, prompted me to re-examine what I believe, my thoughts, and my actions. Discarding limiting, negative, and even other people’s beliefs made room for me to choose how I want to live, and, as a result, raised my  quality of life to the point that fear, worry, and negativity no longer control my life … I do.

Wishing the same for you … one of the best gifts you will ever receive.


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December 23, 2017



When there is no respect … indifference grows.
When there is no love … hate grows.
When there is no light of respect or love … darkness rules
… and we all pay the price with the quality of our lives.

April 13, 2015


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Two days of crisis and care management for Dad, moving him back to Southampton Care Centre, washing all his belongings, some at a laundromat en route to SCC and some later that night at home because of the Outbreak both places had just come out of Monday and Tuesday. Took his wife up yesterday when I returned with more of his belongings, plus new ones we had to buy because of the amount of belongings, clothes and linens, that keep disappearing in these community places … especially the hospital.

Put a call into CCAC for “crisis” transfer to Trillium Court in Kincardine because SCC see Dad … the man who was in great physical pain it was finally discovered and acknowledged while he was in Owen Sound Hospital … the way he was before they sent him there … someone who had become aggressive … but if they had listened … if he had had specialists look at him before this … during the past three years … if they had acknowledged his physical pain from his life as an athlete, his over 75 falls in the past few years, two abcessed teeth and two more on their way due to poor dental hygiene the past three years … and got him on the right pain med which he is now on … if they had listened regarding the dentist I took him to the day before they shipped him off to Owen Sound, they would have known so much more was physical pain not being dealt with … his living environment and conditions and more.

I forgive them, but that doesn’t mean I won’t take the healthcare system to task for the much needed changes … because people with Alzheimer’s or dementia are “not criminals” and should not be treated as such. It is time to treat people with such diseases, physical or mental, the same way we treat people with cancer, heart conditions, etc.

Instead, this round of healthcare professionals are doing what others have done over the past three years … just medicating to the point of incapacitation till death do the person departs … and quality of life be damned … at least for those with these illnesses. They have repeatedly done this to him … because they are not working … communicating … I know, because over and over and over I have to keep telling the same story, but now it is time to tell it to someone who will truly listen and will help with the needed changes … for Dad and everyone else struggling in their last years with the ignorance and fear of their caretakers.

So here is yet one more reason to raise people’s “Respect Levels” by helping them “Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE” because it should not matter what age someone is before they are treated respectfully … with value for just being a life.

February 19, 2015

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Putting Your Life in the Hands of Another …

None of us know what challenges life is going to present us with, but unfortunately people with low Respect Levels make choices equal to their Respect Level and the influences that shape their choices.

For example, with a high Respect Level the Power of Attorney choice such a person would make would be based not on a person’s worldly success, but on the Respect Level of the person … so that when the time comes to make difficult choices … when time is needed for your POA to be with you … or to say or do whatever you need from your POA as your voice, you trust they know you well, share your philosophy or at least support your philosophy and your wishes … and will be available to commit to the time needed to help you when you need them most.

Even then, POA choices can be made, but life is ever-changing … people move away, overwhelming challenges arise for them, etc. and what were once considered good choices turn into not-so-very-good-choices. The good news is while you are still able, you can change your POA … and you should not delay because once you are no longer capable of speaking for yourself, your Power of Attorney cannot be changed. It is finite.

The only other option, here in Ontario, Canada anyway, is someone who is there for you in ways the POA is not can appeal to the courts to secure “Guardianship of the Person” but of course the process is timely and costly … so you are better off to pick people, who may not even be family, to be your voice when yours is no longer heard or listened to anymore. Make sure there is flexibility, ability to delegate, and even the funds set aside to appoint a Guardianship of the Person in case something goes wrong or does not work out with the appointed Powers of Attorneys. I would also caution that the finances from property and for care not be transferable to the POAs upon the death of whom they represent, but if they are willed to the POAs, that the money to be held in trust for a period of years to ensure the extreme … protection from physical harm … and neglect so that the primary directive of Power of Attorneys are care … not the acquisition of someone’s assets, but the devoted care of the person. Of course, that is the worst case scenario, but it is also the more common scenario since our global Respect Level is so low.

The resulting dilemma is also the challenge of what it can cost someone to be someone’s POA or Guardianship of the Person if there are time-consuming challenges and a long life after someone becomes dependent.

The past few years managing my Dad’s day-to-day needs and serving as the primary contact and liaison has revealed to me just how vulnerable we are when we sign our lives over to other people. And that even though there may be no intent to harm, there just may not be enough time in a POA’s life to provide the care and respect we all want … and deserve as individual people … especially during the most difficult time of our lives. Unprepared as I was financially to serve in this role, which I gladly and gratefully have done because it has brought me back to a relationship with my dad, also set me back significantly financially, including my inability to commit to a traditional regular steady job; however, the challenge has forced to look to the Internet for non-traditional income generation as well as additional research into yet another way we need to Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE to make the world a better place for us all to live … respectfully and lovingly … all the days of our lives.

Till then, I urge caution please … investigate your local laws … and raise your own Respect Level by writing not only your Will, but also investigating and carefully considering the people you ask to be there for you legally … because your life, and its quality, will depend on the Respect Level of your choices. Otherwise, until we raise our world’s Respect Levels, unnecessary, neglectful, and often even cruel things do happen to those who have placed their lives into the hands of those who may initially had good intentions when they agreed, but whose reality conflicts with needs of their new, vulnerable dependent.

December 16, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Advocate Author Playwright Director Speaker Publisher Entrepreneur

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“The people who are crazy enough …”

“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world … are the ones who do.”

Steve Jobs, Apple Computer founder

Quoted from the Remstar film “Jobs” with Ashton Kutcher as Steve Jobs.

So the question begged is, “Am I crazy enough to think I can change the world by raising Respect Levels through my education, entertainment, and inspirational company and creations … you bet! Why? Because I believe every life is valuable … and by valuing … respecting every life we will diminish our world’s problems instead of each other … and we will therefore do our part in raising the standard of living and quality of life of all people. Now that is a legacy I hope and pray we will leave instead of a repetition of what has gone before … again and again.

If you do too … order your copy of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book so we can work together on our lofty, idealistic, yet logical, practical, and compassionate goal … now. 60 pages that will shift your perspective and enrich your life … and all those you impact. Perfect for school and organizational discussions … great gift too. Written for the global literacy level to reach the masses to effect the greatest change.

Of course, there is the play, Charles’ Choice, for students and the public to present the concept to their schools and communities … includes a Director’s Guide for schools and communities without school drama clubs and local theatre groups … designed instead for gymnasium floors and community halls. A documentary is also planned that will include a workshop production of the play for the community who presents the strongest case for their community to be the forerunner of this global initiative.

Want to keep it even simpler? Book a keynote address where I will reveal to your audience how to Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE for the benefit of your school, community or organization’s goals … and their own.

Thank you for wanting to learn more about what you can do to help free people’s potential and manifest world peace and for taking action that calls for more than a donation or a “Like.”

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

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Dynamic Duo! Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE and Suze Orman’s The MONEY CLASS

It does not matter how much money we make, without a high enough RESPECT LEVEL, we will still spend more than we make. Speaking from experience and the debt statistics, especially credit card debt and mortgage debt, many of us have at times acted like children given a free rein in a candy shop … ultimately making ourselves sick by not having a high enough RESPECT LEVEL empowering us to make good financial decisions … forcing us to feel sick to our stomach, either from all the junk we have eaten or because of the overdue bills that keep arriving in our mailbox.

Even after achieving Honours in Business Administration at age twenty-nine, I still did not get it. What I did get was a much better income and because conditioned ways of thinking about money and debt were still rooted in my mind, I also generated a lot more debt … because that is what we do, so the statistics stories say is true.

Even when I wanted to change my lifestyle and career to set my life on a better course doing what I wanted to do, the old way of thinking was still rooted deep in me and I made many more not-so-great choices that negatively affected my life and the lives of many others.

And even a few years ago, though my RESPECT LEVEL had risen some because of my dedicated efforts, I realized too late I was still facing the same foe … and though I had been free and clear of debt for years, back on the same horse I climbed and piled up debt once again that I have to get out of again.

But this time, to the rescue came an increasing RESPECT LEVEL for myself and others and a determination to break the bonds of such low thinking. One important tool aiding the mindset change is the wealth of knowledge Suze Orman provides in her 2010 book, The Money Class.

Near the end of her book, Suze’s comment that reading her book may have felt like an intense university course was right on the mark. Her book, The Money Class, is a valuable resource and guide that I studied by writing copious notes because I remember the most effectively and efficiently when I write things out. To my studies, I brought a very open and eager mind desiring to learn how to be different when it comes to my relationship with money, a willingness to acknowledge I did not know everything about money management, and in fact, the admission there was a lot I did not know, from teaching children how to manage money, to funding their college funds, when to start saving for retirement and how, plus what kind of insurance to buy for one’s lifetime.

Suze is a kind, compassionate, yet a firm teacher as her core philosophy shows: People first, money second, things third.

For years, because of my low RESPECT LEVEL, like many other people I put people first, usually ahead of myself, things second and money last but as I am building the highest RESPECT LEVEL I have ever had, my core belief about money is shifting to Suze’s philosophy on money in our lives … and one day, the financial wealth I always dreamed of but did not believe was possible will be mine, especially now that God is in the mix too. As I am discovering, The Bible has lots of financial guidance too and stories of unparalleled success when one lines up with His advice on money matters.

After my studies and transformed thoughts about money and its effective management, I firmly believe Suze’s book, The Money Class, broken down in sections, should be part of the education system from middle school to high school and onward into colleges and universities … that is, if we want a more responsible and viable economic community built on the strengths of solid financial knowledge and a high enough RESPECT LEVEL to make debt, particularly the debilitating kind, a thing of the past … I know I am and even just the idea of that freedom fills me with such peace and amazement … I so look forward to that day, yet I am also enjoying the journey of becoming debt free by starting with the changing of my mindset.

These two things alone will radically change our world for the better. I hope it does yours, for the ones you love and even for those you just respect … value … because they are people just trying to do the best they can too.

April 16, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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You pick … Putin, Napolean, Hitler, Caesar … from the history of “takers”

Taking what is not yours shows the disrespect you have for life … others and yours.

Taking by violent force what is not yours reveals the violence in your heart.

What was done to you, is what you do … until you know better … until you finally believe that you are valuable all on your own, without what you own defining you.

All the countries, people and possessions you think you own, in fact own you because you need them to feel valued … respected in a world still unconsciously driven by the Disrespect Philosophy where we are taught none of us are valuable unless someone or some group says we are by meeting their standards, qualifications, expectations …

When you finally stand in the truth of who you are as a unique individual with a high RESPECT LEVEL, you will no longer need to possess what is not yours, but instead will take the best care of your own self … and in that way, you will serve … and as a result … receive as a gift what you desire … instead of having to steal what is not yours to have.

March 26, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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Cats and dogs … the cost paid for our love … huge vet bills or neglect, abuse and euthanization

The facts and the story … we can do better!

According to statistics from the Ontario SPCA and other animal protection groups and service providers, thousands of cats and dogs are killed on purpose each year in shelters because of their sheer volume.

A volume created by cats and dogs not being spayed and neutered so they cannot have more unwanted babies that grow into the cats and dogs that have to be euthanized.

But kittens and puppies are cute. Many people want the cute babies … but not so much when they find out the commitment they need, the care, cost and training they need and of course, that cats and dogs, like people, lose their baby cuteness and the behavior and antics that once seemed cute and endearing are troublesome and are desired gone … and if they do not disappear as their owners wish, many of the cats and dogs are forced to disappear by being released in the country, dropped off at shelters, neglected, abused and even killed by their adoptive parent(s) or strangers.

Then there is the disparity between what veterinary clinics charge for spaying/neutering and what places like the SPCA charge. Vet clinic prices ranges start around $400.00, though locally, the total charge is even higher once all the other costs are added, but the SPCA offers the same service for $65.00 Canadian and additional costs are minimal in comparison to vet clinics. Even spending the dollars to get to their three locations in Barrie, Newmarket and St. Catharines is still less than half of driving a few miles or even thirty miles to nearby vet clinics.

It is ironic too, that many of the people who often need cats and dogs the most, are often those with little else in their lives, including money, but their cats and dogs.

I am writing this entry because of what I experienced in the past year and a half since I rescued an alley cat that found its way into my life one autumn night one and a half years ago when the seven-month old calico tomcat stood on his hind legs and reached up to me when I entered the basement of a place I was employed.

With a tiny thirteen-year old female cat at home, I was reluctant to take the alley cat home, but there he was. No one else wanted him, shelters were full and he was begging for a home. At the same time, most of my free time was consumed with my Dad’s care, as was my income, that was not fully supporting me and my Dad’s needs, so I did not have the money to have the tomcat fixed right away. But then, because he was not fixed, one horrific tom fight a few months later drove me to rush him into the vet clinic for an emergency appointment. A $300 invoice later with a quote for several hundred dollars more to be spent to neuter him, the escalating costs of being available for my Dad as well as the incredibly high hydro bills of this area, plus having to quit two jobs to be accessible for emergency care for my Dad has made it impossible for me to yet have the now two-year old tom neutered with the local high prices.

One day that will change and my tomcat will be a tom only in his dreams. It has been suggested I add his body to the pile of cats to be euthanized since no one else came forward to give him a home in response to my ads. It has been suggested, quietly and almost silently, that I set him free once again, since after all that is how he spent the first several months of his life. Even when I talk of how his companionship fills a void, how he loves to be near me, how he, along with my other furry friend, make me laugh and keep me company, there is talk of what a problem he is because he wants to be outside tomcatting.

But interestingly enough, no one from this area told me in the past year and a half when I had the resources and vehicle to take him to be neutered at the SPCA that the SPCA even offered this service for such a low-cost in comparison to local fees. So I am also writing this for all the cat and dog lovers in this area to inform them there is an alternative to adding yet another cat or dog to the feral cat and dog population or to the euthanized pile of bodies … with the request that when someone rescues an animal, adopts a new furry friend, tell them they have choices if financing the surgery may be too costly for them here. In fact, take one step further animal lover and drive the animal and its owner to one of the SPCA locations yourself. You will feel good about your good deed and you will prevent more cat and dog bodies from being abandoned, neglected, abused or killed because they are considered disposable because of our low RESPECT LEVEL for their lives.

March 15, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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Raising the RESPECT LEVEL in Long-Term Care (Nursing) Homes for Seniors

Just finished an Urgent Call for Immediate Action letter addressed to both Ministers of Health, Canada, Rona Ambrose and Ontario, Deb Matthews. Emailed the letter to the local Huron-Bruce MPP Lisa Thompson’s office and they will forward it to their contact … who will get it to the people … who will get it to the Ministers.

Thanks to all for your help and patience while I researched the protocol for managing the care of residents’ hearing aids, eyewear and other personal devices in long-term care homes so I could provide some viable solutions to increase the RESPECT LEVEL of care of our seniors … catalyzed by the need to prevent the loss and damage to our Dad’s replacement hearing aid arriving in the next few weeks … that will replace the two lost and damaged aids (value $4000.00) in January. Still working on getting his eyeglasses (value $273) replaced if his benefit will allow access to the remaining $127 of his two-year benefit … which I hope, hope, hope.

February 26, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier

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