The Whole Truth Behind “Wives Obey Your Husbands”

Many religions and people extract Biblical excerpts for their own motives and purposes. One of the ones often quoted, partially, is this one:

“Wives, be subject to your husbands, (subordinate and adapt yourself to them) as is right and fitting and your proper duty to the Lord.” Colossians 3:18

But what many people, men mostly, do is omit or disregard is the following Colossians 3:19-22:

“Husbands, love your wives (be affectionate and sympathetic with them) and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful towards them.”

“Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing to the Lord.”

“Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children (do not be hard on them or harass them), lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. (Do not break their spirit.)

Servants, obey in everything, those who are your earthly masters, not only when their eyes are on you as pleasers of men, but in simplicity of purpose (with all your heart) because of your reverence for the Lord and as a sincere expression of your devotion to Him.

I agree with Joyce Meyer’s sentiments, “If everyone would obey these instructions, think of the peace and joy that would fill each of our homes. There would be no divorce.” quoted from The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer (pages 60:61)

What about you?

And hey, check what follows after Colossians 3:22 … Colossians 3:23, 24 because it is even more important to women so we do not give up our personal lives for a husband … because though a man is to be head of the household, he is not head of a woman’s life  … God is.

“Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul) as (something done) for the Lord and not for men.

Knowing (with all certainty) that it is from the Lord (and not from men) that you will receive the inheritance which is your (real) reward. (The One Whom) you are actually serving (is) the Lord Christ (the Messiah).

Isn’t this something to know and use if someone tries to control our life?

Joyce wraps it up beautifully with “Notice too there is no mention at all of one member, only doing what is right if the others do. No, each member is responsible for their part. Each of us will stand before God and give an account of our lives. (Romans 14:12) We will not be asked about another person, but only ourselves. Each of us should strive to do the right thing even if we are the only one willing to do so. This greatly honors God and will be rewarded in due time.”

Just one more reason to go to the source and get the whole truth for yourself.


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April 18, 2020






“Getting to Work” … What Phrase Best Describes You?

From “THREE Getting to Work from Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron, and Kelly Tieger’s DO WHAT YOU ARE    Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type”

 #8 ENFJ “The Public Relations Specialists”

#9 INFJ “Catalysts for Positive Change”

#10 ENFP “Anything is Possible”

#11 INFP “Still Waters Run Deep”

#12 ENTJ “Everything is Fine – I’m in Charge”

#13 INTJ “Competence + Independence = Perfection”

#14 ENTP “Life’s Entrepreneurs”

#15 INTP “Ingenious Problem Solvers”

#16 ESTJ “Taking Care of Business”

#17 ISTJ “Take Your Time and Do It Right”

#18 ESFJ “What Can I Do For You?”

#19 ISFJ “On My Honor, to Do My Duty …”

#20 ESTP “Let’s Get Busy!”

#21 ISTP “Doing the Best I Can With What I Got”

#22 ESFP “Don’t Worry-Be Happy!”

#23 ISFP “It’s the Thought That Counts

As the authors point out in their book, one type best defines us, though we each fit differently from each group on the scale. We also are influenced by other personality type characteristics linked closest to us.

For instance, when I initially did an official MBTI test when working in a corporate head office, the results revealed  I was an INFJ, which was not a great fit for an organization doing what it was doing and the roles I took on. The reason I was not a great fit was because of my ignorance of my best strengths, interests, and of course, what was challenging for me in the environment and roles I naively placed myself in.

Recently I decided to revisit, but also delve deep into understanding the MBTI with the fifth edition,  Do What You Are   Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type. As the authors also point out, keep in mind that as we gain more experience and mature, we often find our personality types can become more balanced and/or blended.

For example, though the driving force for my work is my passion for helping people, exemplified by an INFJ, “Catalysts for Positive Change”,  I draw on my INTJ , “Competence + Independence = Perfection”,   to support my INFJ passion.

Yet also, characteristics of two the other comparative types I identify with,the INFP, “Still Waters Run Deep”,  and the INTP,  “Ingenious Problem Solvers”, also contribute significantly to my unique personality blend, the perfect mix for the work I am now finally doing as a social entrepreneur fuelled by my natural talents, skills, and experience as a philosopher, innovator, producer, publisher, writer, artist, speaker, and founder of the social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, driving the global initiative transforming respect from a discretionary value to a global initiative.

May not sound like your cup of tea, but I love all the elements of my work now … the challenges, the innovation, the creativity, and of course, all for the greater good of everyone!

Perhaps all you need to enhance your life, professionally and personally, is to learn a little more about yourself and those in your work and social circles. I highly recommend this well-respected concept, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), used for screening potential employees and for guiding students on career paths. Add the authors’ extensive expertise after coaching people, who use the MBTI for such purposes, and you have a wealth of empowering insights, knowledge, and tools to enrich your life on all levels.

Best wishes!


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January 29, 2019





Perspective on “RESPECT and LOVE” From World-Renowned Psychologist Alice Miller and …

“I love my children if I can respect them with all their feelings and their needs and try to fulfill those needs as best as I can. If I see them not as persons whose rights are just as sacrosanct as my own, but as objects that I have to correct, then that is not love.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 223

“Most parents don’t want to hurt their children; they do it automatically, by repeating that they themselves learned when they were small. We can help them to refrain from this destructive behavior by explaining to them why it is so destructive. Then they can wake up and make a choice.”

Free From Lies Discovering Your True Needs, Alice Miller, p 240

The introduction and study of Alice Miller’s body of work changed and played a big role in healing my life. Fueled by my deep compassion for all people, what I learned about respect and love from Alice Miller inspired my development of the Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle concept, company, books, products, services, and global initiative. My compassion and respect for everyone, plus my understanding of what needs to change in our world drives me every day to keep moving forward with this body of work that will hopefully help many others as Alice helped so many too.

April 14, 2018


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The Inspiration … Phrases, Quotes, Statistics

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know by their own experience … they are valued … RESPECTED.

“Violence causes more than 1.6 million deaths worldwide every year and is one of the leading causes of death in all parts of the world for persons 15 – 44.” www:// 12/18/14

RESPECT transforms the quality of life.

“More than 1 billion children (1/7 of the world’s population) and half of all the children in the world are victims of violence every year.” www.// 12/18/14

CONNECT … with RESPECT! because RESPECT simply means “to value”

“In every country surveyed, more than 1 in 4 girls experienced sexual violence.” www.// 12/18/14

RESPECT is not something a child … teen … adult … senior … should have to earn.

“More than 3 million referrals received by state and local agencies each year. 6 referrals every minute for maltreatment of children … physically … sexually … emotionally … plus because of neglect. Total lifetime cost of child maltreatments is $124 billion per year.” www.// 12/18/14

Want a better world? … be a more “respect-full” person.

“Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide and a major contributor to global burden of disease. 350 million affected. Can lead to suicide … suicides estimated to be 1 million per year.”
www://who.intl 12/18/14

December 18, 2014

The RESPECT SPECIALIST … Freeing “Potential” with Education, Entertainment, and Inspiration!

CONNECT … with RESPECT! ORDER Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. © All rights reserved 2014.