Living By Truth Is Not Easy In This World

Up front I have to admit I certainly have told lies, but more often than not, I have told truths … truths that were not recognized as truth, or could not, or would not, be believed. I even lied after I told the truth just to smooth things over in order to avoid conflict, one of my least favourite things. And over the years, many people have lied about me, with their own unique motives. I used to get hurt, angry, and even confused, but not so much anymore, and at times, not at all.

Fortunately my drive to understand human behaviour recently provided the much-needed answers I sought.

As I have written about previously, my research revealed that my personality type falls within a small range, estimated to be between 5% to 8% of the American population, as well as also being an introvert, in contrast to the dominant personality type, extroverts.

Not having this knowledge, truly understanding the impact, and people being more comfortable with people like themselves, not only compelled me to be untruthful about my true character, unique talents and skills, not that they were bad, just more different than the majority of people. I realize too that my being untruthful about myself and presenting a preferred persona, also resulted in relationship problems and even professional problems when my true character came out, which eventually had to happen in order for me to develop the best mental health for me.

Unfortunately, what I did with good intent, becoming chameleon-like in order to be accepted, liked, and loved ultimately backfired personally and professionally and their has been much collateral damage requiring several years and a lot of effort to shed the false skin and grow into my own … and also to let people go gracefully, in ways I could not do before.

Now, the challenge is not to revert to chameleon-like behaviour, but to stay true to myself, even with the knowledge that not being like most people, I have to accept people’s discomfort, dislike, or even worse from my not being like them, my not thinking like them, my not making choices similar to theirs, and as a result, their lack of respect for me.

Learning what I have, I now do my best to be civil and respectful to others because I know what it feels like not be respected. I even make an effort to apologize if I am not as civil as I want to people to treat me. And when I am on the receiving end of what I experienced when I was naive about all of this, sometimes it still hurts, but only initially when I let my feelings dominate my consciousness rather than my principle that everyone benefits from being treated with civility … in other words, respectfully … simply for being another life.

The other thing though that has helped me considerably to live truthfully is studying The Bible and discovering three important facts.

First surprising fact to me was that if someone is dedicated to doing work that is going to make a positive difference in the world, that person must be prepared for the onslaught that will come because, after all, Satan wants to win as many battles, especially against anyone who is going to advance humanity, because he knows the final victory is God’s. Discovering this empowers me to be less surprised when bad things happen, big or small, yet admittedly I still have to make sure to remind myself not to take any onslaught personally, regardless of who delivers it, because I know the real source, whose power is really nothing compared to who is for me and my purpose.

Second, those who believe in God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit are told they are in this world, but not of it, so it is natural that some, even many people, will not only accept, but will also reject, and even seek to harm someone they do not identify with or who does not believe as they do..

And gladly, third, no matter what is said or by whom against me, I need do little, especially not acting revengefully, but just believe in the power truth and God brings to any situation or relationship.

Undoubtedly, living truthfully may not always be the easy way to live in this world, but after living untruthfully for a number of reasons most of my life and reaping the unsatisfying, unfulfilling, limiting, and harmful results, there is no other choice I would make.



Specialist, Writer, Speaker, Social Entrepreneur, Founder and President

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Why Self Discovery is the KEY to SUCCESS on All Levels


If I knew the whole of me earlier, plus had the courage and confidence to be me all my life, my life now would look immensely different.

Flashing back in time, the three tribes I would have joined early in life were the nerds, the artists, and the athletes because I love to learn, am highly creative, and inherited a strong drive to be athletic.

If nurtured to discover and embrace my inherent talents at a young age, plus to discover the many different avenues my talents and passions could lead me to, I would likely have acquired three degrees. The first degree would be in English and liberal arts, empowering me to be the writer I did know at a young age I wanted to be, rather than the pressure to bury such a “foolish” venture. Another degree would be in the fields of humanities, social science and psychology. The third would have been a masters in business administration.

A lifetime later, the patchwork of my history reveals that though I did not gain the degrees, I certainly gained diverse knowledge, and yes, even expertise, in these fields of study.

Let me show you by providing a very different style of resume I created, not just for a job I applied for, but for me to put my experiences in perspective and to shed light on my inherent and developed skills.


Early Years

  • “A” student in elementary school, but by junior high school, my unusual personality type resulted in experiencing social challenges at home and in school so I quit at age sixteen to marry. No children though
  • Divorced and remarried. By age 21, promoted to Assistant Manager at People’s department store, plus did payroll, banking, and closed store. Left because of area supervisor’s sexual harassment
  • Hired as part-time cashier at Krupps, promoted within a few months to full time and Head Cashier. Hired, trained, and scheduled fifteen part-time and full time cashiers. Closed and opened safe and store, balanced cash, banking, customer accounts, and accounts payable. Promoted to Executive Assistant. Proposed and wrote policies and procedures training manual. Management Team member that contributed to the business doubling in size and sales over seven years
  • Efficiency and effectiveness abilities empowered me to cut my workweek from five to four days to take on another role as an Aerobics Instructor. Later promoted to Area Supervisor
  • Worked with the owner’s chartered accountant. Acquired GED. Applied and accepted into Westervelt College, London for the Business Administration program

Middle Years

  • Graduated with Honours, awarded “Outstanding Student Cooperation” by faculty, plus received first year exemption from the Certified General Accountant’s program.  Served as Newsletter Editor and Copywriter, plus elected as Student Council Treasurer. Team member for the development of a sales and marketing board game
  • Relocated to Toronto and recruited by Levi Strauss & Co. (Canada) Inc. as the Financial Planning Budget Clerk. Responsible for assisting the team of three planners with the company’s five-year forecast by developing spreadsheets to download database information for ease of reporting. Also monitored and reported on capital expenditures
  • Recruited by Operations department as a Production Planner for the company’s contractors. For five years served as the daily liaison between several contractor production facilities across Canada and between several internal departments. Visited contractor sites in Toronto, Three Rivers in Quebec, and Vancouver to train contractor managers on updating our database with production numbers, plus as raw and finished goods auditors during inventory counts
  • Proposed, developed, co-implemented, and trained nine planners on the automated (spreadsheet) master production schedule we used to download database forecasts to plan production. Process eliminated one week per month from the monthly planning cycle. My efforts were recognized for above-an- beyond-the-call-of-duty performance in the company’s international newsletter
  • Concurrently worked with a psychologist to deal with early traumas. Encouraged to enrol into university. Accepted into York University Bachelor of Science program, psychology major, social sciences minor for part-time studies
  • Recruited as Human Resources Salary and Budget Manager Assistant. Also supported the human resources assistants and the HRIS database, plus processed executive expense reports, managed the employee service awards, and served as secretary to the job evaluation team
  • Proposed a team-building workshop to the director for the head office and production facilities’ human resources managers and their human resources assistants. Worked with consultant on the planning and delivering the two-day program
  • Also concurrently, for six of the seven years with Levi’s, served as volunteer Treasurer and member of the Community Involvement Team
  • Left Levi’s to pursue full-time university studies

Later Years

  • Essay writing and my writing accomplishments rekindled a childhood passion. Published, including professionally by the university, libraries, trade magazines, and anthologies, one of which was dedicated to Lake Huron communities that also included a press event with all the contributing authors and poets
  • Discussion with my humanities professor resulted in my leaving university to re-evaluate what I really wanted to do versus what I could do, plus how I wanted to help people. As a result, worked various low level jobs to take time and explore possibilities
  • Evening and weekend Mackenzie Gallery Storefront Manager for four years. Upsold owner and framer sales by providing customers with diverse and more original, expensive framing options for prints and original artwork. Responsible for customer accounts, banking, hiring, training, and hosting artist signing events, with celebrity wildlife artists such as Robert Bateman
  • Put writing on the back burner and focused on design and communication arts at Durham College. Switched to visual arts at George Brown with relocation to Toronto. Two courses are pending for my diploma. However, even before my art studies, I was awarded an Ontario Arts Council Exhibition Grant for one of my solo exhibitions. Sourced unusual spaces and libraries for solo exhibitions, joined art councils, and participated in juried art exhibitions. Started my own company, Kaitlin Ann Originals that resulted from my year-long participation in a self-employment program
  • Developed public speaking skills through Toastmasters and miscellaneous events
  • Performed in Ontario schools as an eight-foot puppet to a pre-recorded show
  • Worked for a family as a barn worker, groom, and exerciser with their competition heavy horses
  • Resumed writing when inspired to create a play, Charles Choice, for schools to address bullying in schools. The play is now part of my own company’s books and products and will be used as means for a production and video contest
  • Won Honourable Mention, Literature, for a Toronto short story contest
  • Founded two non-profits, Trees in Our Community and It is All About Respect Inc.  Discovered for-profit social business ventures are better means to independently achieve mission and goals. The same thesis for It is All About Respect Inc. now serves as the foundation for Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle
  • Basic French Level I in continuing education studies


Even without conscious intent in some cases, I was inherently drawn to what was in my heart to do with my talents, but without a high enough “Respect Level” to foster the confidence to follow my heart, I have lived a life well below my abilities. Next to helping people, I have placed my most important passion, writing, on the bottom of my to-do list.

Yes, I do write, but I have tried to use my creativity in the wrong way in writing because I did not know better. I mistakenly thought my creative approach to format versus excellent use and knowledge of Standard English would compensate for my lack of confidence and skill development. My natural talent for spelling, always 100% in elementary and middle school, was not enough to compensate for the English Standard foundational knowledge I did not acquire because I did not attend high school. Yes, I acquired my GED, but instead of a high 80’s mark at Westervelt College, I could have achieved a high 90’s mark. With a solid Standard English foundation, I could have achieved more A’s and A+’s at York University for my essays rather than B’s and B+’s. As a professional writer, I would be more successful by now also if I had valued myself and my passions enough to pour my energy and focus on becoming a very good writer, and even a great writer.

Finally placing my passion and talent for writing on the same level as helping others, plus learning how to balance both with healthy boundaries has arrived. Yes, there is work to be done, but as the key creative, artistic director, founder, and president for my social business venture, Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle, and its vast bank of intellectual capital I have and have yet to create means investing in the company’s primary asset, me as the writer and source of all its intellectual capital, is top priority as is writing for anyone with the same passion to help people of all ages.

Having the degrees to validate my knowledge would have opened more doors sooner, but the knowledge, experience, and expertise I have gained, regardless of the manner I have gained them, will open the right doors and the work I set out to do will still be accomplished because that is how I am built.


Advocate Innovator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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Content Writer, Social Business Venture Entrepreneur, Angel Investors’ Contestant, and “The Dragons’ Den Guide to Investor-Ready Business Plans”

As one of the Hawk’s Nest contestants in the past few months, I was fortunate to receive helpful feedback on my social business venture vision and business plan from the evaluation team after my interview.

Though my idea made the second round, part of the strategic plan development meant I had to inform the panel I had decided to move back to the city, which meant I could no longer compete because I was going to be outside of the contest’s containment area.

This impacted my not making the finalists’ list; however, I was offered the opportunity to attend the pitch workshop and to connect with the local development corporation regarding other financial possibilities.

As part of my revised strategic plan, I initially thought the move to London was about getting a traditional administrative job, which I had experienced great success with over the years. However, by not recognizing and pushing my more current writing successes and entrepreneurial achievements, I was selling myself short and God has not been opening those doors for me as He has in the past, but has, in fact, been pushing me towards the writing and entrepreneurial doors.

So, after the analysis and evaluation, I know it is time again to adapt to what is needed next.

The first task is to rewrite my resume, highlighting my recent achievements and successes with writing, my social business venture, as well as, my previous administrative successes. I will continue to apply for jobs, however, only writing opportunities, which are increasingly becoming more important and, as a result, more available because many companies are recognizing they need in-house writers rather than just advertising agencies for special projects.

Second, is the rewriting of a new Executive Summary based on recent events to garner investor support for what I have discovered in book is my social business venture’s “Early Stage” investment stage since I have already proven my business concept (Seed Stage) and started the business (Start-up Stage) with Bootstrap funding, though it was stalled due to parental care needs.

The Hawk’s Nest contest I was in this spring was to provide winners with a $25,000 investment; however, I realize a larger investment will, in fact, reap the fastest turn-around since the core products are already developed and simply need to be delivered, starting this fall. Of course, there is a line-up of additional books, products, and services waiting to be developed when I have the resources and time that a cash investment will also provide.

On that note, it is time to get to work on the new resume, plus the pitch and executive summary, so as always, thanks for stopping by! And best wishes with your own strategic life plan … though, as I am learning, staying flexible and adaptable is key to reaping the benefits of the unexpected!


Kaitlin Ann Trepanier, Writer, Social Entrepreneur, and The Respect Specialist.

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