“The people who are crazy enough …”

“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world … are the ones who do.”

Steve Jobs, Apple Computer founder

Quoted from the Remstar film “Jobs” with Ashton Kutcher as Steve Jobs.

So the question begged is, “Am I crazy enough to think I can change the world by raising Respect Levels through my education, entertainment, and inspirational company and creations … you bet! Why? Because I believe every life is valuable … and by valuing … respecting every life we will diminish our world’s problems instead of each other … and we will therefore do our part in raising the standard of living and quality of life of all people. Now that is a legacy I hope and pray we will leave instead of a repetition of what has gone before … again and again.

If you do too … order your copy of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book so we can work together on our lofty, idealistic, yet logical, practical, and compassionate goal … now. 60 pages that will shift your perspective and enrich your life … and all those you impact. Perfect for school and organizational discussions … great gift too. Written for the global literacy level to reach the masses to effect the greatest change.

Of course, there is the play, Charles’ Choice, for students and the public to present the concept to their schools and communities … includes a Director’s Guide for schools and communities without school drama clubs and local theatre groups … designed instead for gymnasium floors and community halls. A documentary is also planned that will include a workshop production of the play for the community who presents the strongest case for their community to be the forerunner of this global initiative.

Want to keep it even simpler? Book a keynote address where I will reveal to your audience how to Connect the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE for the benefit of your school, community or organization’s goals … and their own.

Thank you for wanting to learn more about what you can do to help free people’s potential and manifest world peace and for taking action that calls for more than a donation or a “Like.”

Sincerely,
Kaitlin Ann Trepanier
The RESPECT SPECIALIST … AUTHOR … PLAYWRIGHT … KEYNOTE SPEAKER … CONSULTANT

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Dynamic Duo! Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE and Suze Orman’s The MONEY CLASS

It does not matter how much money we make, without a high enough RESPECT LEVEL, we will still spend more than we make. Speaking from experience and the debt statistics, especially credit card debt and mortgage debt, many of us have at times acted like children given a free rein in a candy shop … ultimately making ourselves sick by not having a high enough RESPECT LEVEL empowering us to make good financial decisions … forcing us to feel sick to our stomach, either from all the junk we have eaten or because of the overdue bills that keep arriving in our mailbox.

Even after achieving Honours in Business Administration at age twenty-nine, I still did not get it. What I did get was a much better income and because conditioned ways of thinking about money and debt were still rooted in my mind, I also generated a lot more debt … because that is what we do, so the statistics stories say is true.

Even when I wanted to change my lifestyle and career to set my life on a better course doing what I wanted to do, the old way of thinking was still rooted deep in me and I made many more not-so-great choices that negatively affected my life and the lives of many others.

And even a few years ago, though my RESPECT LEVEL had risen some because of my dedicated efforts, I realized too late I was still facing the same foe … and though I had been free and clear of debt for years, back on the same horse I climbed and piled up debt once again that I have to get out of again.

But this time, to the rescue came an increasing RESPECT LEVEL for myself and others and a determination to break the bonds of such low thinking. One important tool aiding the mindset change is the wealth of knowledge Suze Orman provides in her 2010 book, The Money Class.

Near the end of her book, Suze’s comment that reading her book may have felt like an intense university course was right on the mark. Her book, The Money Class, is a valuable resource and guide that I studied by writing copious notes because I remember the most effectively and efficiently when I write things out. To my studies, I brought a very open and eager mind desiring to learn how to be different when it comes to my relationship with money, a willingness to acknowledge I did not know everything about money management, and in fact, the admission there was a lot I did not know, from teaching children how to manage money, to funding their college funds, when to start saving for retirement and how, plus what kind of insurance to buy for one’s lifetime.

Suze is a kind, compassionate, yet a firm teacher as her core philosophy shows: People first, money second, things third.

For years, because of my low RESPECT LEVEL, like many other people I put people first, usually ahead of myself, things second and money last but as I am building the highest RESPECT LEVEL I have ever had, my core belief about money is shifting to Suze’s philosophy on money in our lives … and one day, the financial wealth I always dreamed of but did not believe was possible will be mine, especially now that God is in the mix too. As I am discovering, The Bible has lots of financial guidance too and stories of unparalleled success when one lines up with His advice on money matters.

After my studies and transformed thoughts about money and its effective management, I firmly believe Suze’s book, The Money Class, broken down in sections, should be part of the education system from middle school to high school and onward into colleges and universities … that is, if we want a more responsible and viable economic community built on the strengths of solid financial knowledge and a high enough RESPECT LEVEL to make debt, particularly the debilitating kind, a thing of the past … I know I am and even just the idea of that freedom fills me with such peace and amazement … I so look forward to that day, yet I am also enjoying the journey of becoming debt free by starting with the changing of my mindset.

These two things alone will radically change our world for the better. I hope it does yours, for the ones you love and even for those you just respect … value … because they are people just trying to do the best they can too.

April 16, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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You pick … Putin, Napolean, Hitler, Caesar … from the history of “takers”

Taking what is not yours shows the disrespect you have for life … others and yours.

Taking by violent force what is not yours reveals the violence in your heart.

What was done to you, is what you do … until you know better … until you finally believe that you are valuable all on your own, without what you own defining you.

All the countries, people and possessions you think you own, in fact own you because you need them to feel valued … respected in a world still unconsciously driven by the Disrespect Philosophy where we are taught none of us are valuable unless someone or some group says we are by meeting their standards, qualifications, expectations …

When you finally stand in the truth of who you are as a unique individual with a high RESPECT LEVEL, you will no longer need to possess what is not yours, but instead will take the best care of your own self … and in that way, you will serve … and as a result … receive as a gift what you desire … instead of having to steal what is not yours to have.

March 26, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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Raising the RESPECT LEVEL in Long-Term Care (Nursing) Homes for Seniors

Just finished an Urgent Call for Immediate Action letter addressed to both Ministers of Health, Canada, Rona Ambrose and Ontario, Deb Matthews. Emailed the letter to the local Huron-Bruce MPP Lisa Thompson’s office and they will forward it to their contact … who will get it to the people … who will get it to the Ministers.

Thanks to all for your help and patience while I researched the protocol for managing the care of residents’ hearing aids, eyewear and other personal devices in long-term care homes so I could provide some viable solutions to increase the RESPECT LEVEL of care of our seniors … catalyzed by the need to prevent the loss and damage to our Dad’s replacement hearing aid arriving in the next few weeks … that will replace the two lost and damaged aids (value $4000.00) in January. Still working on getting his eyeglasses (value $273) replaced if his benefit will allow access to the remaining $127 of his two-year benefit … which I hope, hope, hope.

February 26, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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Mental Health … or Just Broken Hearts and Spirits?

Science has shown that depression, in time, actually manifests itself in people’s brains and bodies, affecting the chemicals in our brains that motivate or de-motivate us.

The “key” to consider I believe is the “in time” label.

First, let us remember that some people are born with the chemical imbalance that causes depression and its often disastrous side effects, particularly suicide.

But let’s also consider how people not born with the chemical brain imbalance become depressed.

In a world constantly affirming that no one is entitled to respect … to be valued … unless someone in authority says so … people becoming depressed is easy to understand.

When a child is taught by their experience, as the majority of children are based on the results generated from the beginning till now, that their “value’ is determined by others’ thoughts and expectations, such a child loses his or her identity in the process of pleasing others to gain their respect … to feel valued … and therefore safe, protected … but relying on others not only will disappoint children, but also in reality also has the potential to cause great harm and severe danger, including death by violence, suicide or murder.

The training tool employed by the Disrespect Philosophy unconsciously driving our world is the repetitive “breaking” of hearts and spirits. Some people call the effect depression; something wrong that becomes wrong or broken in people’s minds but both my own experience and my research indicate otherwise. Both indicate the precursor to the level of depression that creates havoc with a life has more to do with the repetitive damage done to a person’s heart and spirit … and if not healed, opens the path for depression to sink into the cells of one’s brain and body.

In other words, the real mental health challenge is not depression, but its root cause, disrespect.

For some people depression that has been inside one too long needs to be treated with medication as well as the personal work to discover the damage done to one’s heart and spirit and to heal so one can move forward; however, what I found the most helpful was the discovery of where and when, the personal journey to heal … that increased my RESPECT LEVEL to a high enough level …. so I could reclaim my identity … and then to a higher RESPECT LEVEL that resulted in my reconnecting with my spirituality … all of which finally resulted in my experiencing the peace nothing else generated in my fifty plus years, along with the confidence, courage and direction to finally move upward and forward.

Family and friends thought I lost “it” twenty years ago when I walked away from everything and everyone I knew. What no one seemed to understand or wanted to hear was I had not lost my mind, but instead my heart and spirit had lost the desire to use my mind … that is the difference between depression and a nervous breakdown from a brokenness deep in the core of one’s self.

Science is a great tool and methodology to help us understand ourselves and our world, but like all things and fields of study, science is only a part of the big picture. Labels are created to help us understand our differences and each other, but labelling in itself quickly becomes prejudicial in a world still driven by the unconscious belief we are only as valuable as we are labelled … worthy of respect, worthy of being valued or worthy of being rejected, abandoned, denied, reshaped, conformed … etc.

In light of this train of thought, perhaps we can re-consider the stigma attached to mental health for what it is too … yet another level of prejudice created by the Disrespect Philosophy’s premise … no one is valuable unless someone in authority … decides someone is worthy.

The question begged then is the Disrespect Philosophy and its fallout problems of broken hearts, broken spirits and eventually the mental health problems, including depression what we want to serve as our legacy?

February 21, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Lobbying for “Person-Centred Care” for higher RESPECT LEVEL care in long-term (nursing) care homes

Friday, February 14, 2014, CTV’s W5 presented an 8 minute video presenting the “Person-Centred Care” model that the Sherbrooke Community Centre in Saskatoon, Manitoba, Canada uses in its daily care that is proving particularly successful in dealing with the violence resulting from Dementia patients’ acting out their fear and frustration from being forced to do what they don’t want to do or are frightened of doing. My comment posted on CTV’s website and in the next paragraph explains why I am lobbying for the “Person-Centred Care” for higher RESPECT LEVEL care in long-term (nursing) homes.

For the past two years, I’ve been dedicated to helping my Dad with his Alzheimer and Dementia care needs. Over medication and medication side effects first turned him into a drooling zombie, then almost killed him by disorienting him to the degree he got lost and was not reported missing at mealtime and would have died from hypothermia if a local family hadn’t found him on their property and then after the introduction of another drug in a new residence, he fell over 25 times because he could not rest even when exhausted because of the severe agitation and restlessness that prevented him from sitting in a wheelchair when he was tired. Several of his falls resulted in sutures and staples to his head plus he fell into and broke a window. Since he was moved to another home late October and was taken off that drug, he has only had a few falls and is even more lucid than before medication was prescribed to him. After seeing this video, I will be using it and Sherbrooke’s logical, practical and compassionate care model while I lobby for this personal care model, in partnership with my local MPP.

Read more: http://www.ctvnews.ca/w5/saskatoon-care-home-offers-unique-approach-for-residents-with-dementia-1.1686936/comments-7.485425#ixzz2tmg2VvTf

Because after all … shouldn’t all care be “person-centred care?”

February 19, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Truth or Deception? I would not change a thing because …

Many of have heard people say or perhaps we have said the words ourselves, “I would not change a thing in my life because of what I have learned and the results in my life now.”

I used to believe this too, though now I call this thinking a fallacy because of a question that arose … does this kind of thinking empower us to make our world and the world-at-large a better place so we all thrive? Or are we just continuing to accept this hand-me-down mentality and passing its limitations onto the next generations?

After considering this mindset extensively I realize this perspective is yet another deception the Disrespect Philosophy creates to keep us small, with little expectation or hope, repeating the past over and over, instead of empowering us to create significant lasting personal and cultural change.

I will give you my scenario and hopefully as you read this, you will consider yours … from both perspectives.

For years I thought all the very limiting and negative experiences my life was filled with were my fault … including the abuses I experienced as a child … for being misunderstood, different, pre-judged, starving for acceptance and as a result, vulnerable to people who prey, consciously or not, on the vulnerability of the broken-hearted and the broken-spirited with promises that eventually caused me great harm … the dangerous kind of harm that reduces a child’s, a youth’s, an adult’s RESPECT LEVEL to such a low-level one keeps attracting the same level of disrespect from others … reinforcing and reducing one’s RESPECT LEVEL that turns what started out to be a happy, loving being into a negative, frightened being who seeks to hurt first in relationships or runs away or uses habits as distractions.

Then being forced to make changes to survive, I then embraced the idea that I had to go through all I did in life so I could do what I am doing … advocating, writing, creating; however, based on an idea that grew into the premise, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. As a result, now I know for years I was being deceived by our global Disrespect Philosophy or if you are a Christian believer, as I am again, you would say it was the Enemy. Because I know this now, I also know this fallacy created yet another deception … another fallacy … the one that still wants me to believe and reinforce by saying, “I would not change a thing in my life because of what I have learned and the results in my life now.”

For now I see through this veil of deception imprisoning most of us.

For in truth, if we lived in a global culture of “Respect for all life,” based on The RESPECT PRINCIPLE, we would bring children into a world where we would have made the “Respect Full” changes to ensure all children would not have to qualify or be approved of in order to receive healthy food, shelter, clothing, medicine, education and if not love, at least RESPECT, the simple recognition that they, as the unique individuals they are, are valued … are valuable … just for being who they are.

In my case, if my parents, family, school, community, province and country had a high enough RESPECT LEVEL for those more different from themselves, they would have sought to discover what personality type I was, what were my primary and secondary communicating and learning styles, what type of learning environment I needed to develop my own identity, boundaries and a healthy RESPECT LEVEL for myself, and as a result, for others, thereby developing to the best ability the social skills to interact well with the world in all my relationships.

But they did not know my personality type thrives on study, research, exploration and then lots of analysis, introspection, problem solving, and creativity. They did not know my personality type’s mind receives vast internal stimulation whereas the majority of people require external stimulation from the world around them to keep them engaged mentally and that when I am in the external world too long, I shutdown to protect myself. But of course, the irony is, shutting down and withdrawing from those people whose brains require vast external stimulation often, because of ignorance, misjudge and mistreat those who withdraw, often taking their withdrawal personally, which ultimately puts those trying to protect themselves in more danger.

They did not know how their ignorance and their demand for 100% conformity broke my heart and my spirit as well as contributed to the harm to my body … inflicted by others and my self because of my low RESPECT LEVEL for myself.

And this is where many people will say, “But look at what you have learned, who you have become … a writer, author, advocate and so much more,” but I say this now, “But look at how much more I could have given to the world, at what a better citizen, student, role model, wife, daughter, sister, friend, supporter, community member I could have been all my life … if I knew from experience I was valued and aided accordingly for who I was and for my unique gifts, talents and abilities. I tell you who I would have been, what I would have done, the life I would have lived … I would have been placed in a Montessori school where self-directed education is best suited for my personality type. I would have received an athletic scholarship for the physical prowess and stamina I inherited from both of my parents. Because of my natural desire to study, I would have a few degrees, would be a lifelong successful author, an altruistic entrepreneur and so much more. I would not have married twice because I would have made better choices for me because I would have known myself better and not tried to get my value through other people whether in relationships or work I did. I would have been more respectful of others … their feelings, their things and I would have enjoyed happier and healthier relationships with my family.

Though this is my story, this is also everyone’s story … just look at our world.

Now that my years of study, research, analysis and problem-solving have revealed the lies and deceptions for what they are, now I am being who I was destined to be, doing what I was destined to do, life is good and my life will one day reflect that good … but if I had grown up in a world with a higher RESPECT LEVEL, my whole life would have bore the fruit of being who I really am … all my life and not just in the last half of my life … and the world I was in contact with during my lifetime would have been better for that experience.

If I could, I would change almost everything about my life, starting with my early years, where in photos I find a happy, joyful, exuberant child ready to explore the world, but since I cannot do it over for me, I am dedicated to shedding the light on the darkness … on the lies and deceptions the Disrespect Philosophy, the Enemy have used to hold us as prisoners.

I hope and pray you will too … it is never too late to be who you are meant to be.

February 17, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

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What we don’t know or want to know … does hurt us … and our loved ones.

From page 33 of the January 2014 Scientific American Journal’s article,
OUR UNCONSCIOUS MIND. …”

The unconscious way we perceive people during the course of the day is a reflexive action. We must exert wilful, conscious effort to put aside the unexplained and sometimes unwarranted negative feelings that we may harbor towards others. The stronger the unconscious influence, the harder we have to work consciously to overcome it … The ability to regulate our own behavior, whether making friends, getting up to speed at a new job or overcoming a drinking problem-depends on more than genes, temperament and social support networks. It also hinges, in no small measure, on our capacity to identify and try to overcome the automatic impulses and emotions that in influence every aspect of our waking life. To make our way in the world, we need to learn to come to terms with our unconscious self.”

… which is one of the many reasons why I was blessed with gift of the idea, book, global initiative and one day, the not-for-profit foundation based on Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. This article serves to reaffirm my commitment to generate the awareness and co-create the changes so we overcome the dark, limiting forces that limit so much of our potential as individuals and as a global nation.

February 12, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Connecting “Prejudice” … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … Special Feature “Scientific American’s Our Unconscious Mind” Article

As with any word people can have variations on a word’s definition, but a word like prejudice is fairly straightforward. Its spelling defines its meaning. Prejudice is simply our act of pre-judging something … a person, place, experience, belief, etc., but history and the present show globally how we perceive some prejudices as small and acceptable and some as big and unacceptable, all of which are dependent on a number of variables … most of them harmful and even dangerous.

However, based on the Connecting the Dots … with the RESPECT PRINCIPLE, our prejudice variables are greatly influenced by our internalized and our community’s externalized RESPECT LEVEL.

Before proceeding, let’s keep in mind that most of what drives our unconscious thoughts and actions is a deep, negative, global conditioning I call the Disrespect Philosophy … the core belief that no one is worthy or entitled to be valued … respected … without some qualifier … without someone’s or some stamp of approval by some group … and this is the root of both our small and big prejudices … and fortuitously the January 2014 Scientific American confirms my premise that our unconscious mind drives more of our thoughts and actions than perhaps we care to acknowledge … Check this out

Journal of Scientific American
January 2014 (Psychology)

Our Unconscious Mind
Article Pages 30-37

By John A. Bargh, a professor of psychology at Yale University. His Automaticity in Cognition, Motivation and Evaluation Lab at Yale investigates unconscious influences on behavior and questions such as to the extent of what free will exists.

Unconscious impulses and desires impel what we think and do in ways Freud never dreamed of.

IN BRIEF (4 boxes on bottom of page 32)

DECISION MAKING often occurs without people giving much conscious thought to how they vote, what they buy, where they go on vacation or the way they negotiate a myriad of other life choices.

UNCONSCIOUS PROCESSES underlie the way we deliberate and plan our lives – and for good reason. Automatic judgments, for one, are essential for dodging on oncoming car or bus.

BEHAVIORS governed by the unconscious go beyond looking both ways at the corner. Embedded attitudes below the level of awareness shape many of our attitudes toward others.

SIGMUND FREUD meditated on the meaning of the unconscious throughout his career. These newer studies provide a more pragmatic perspective on how we relate to a boss or spouse.

When psychologists try to understand the way our mind works, they frequently come to a conclusion that may seem startling: people often make decisions without having given them much thought – or, more precisely, before they have thought about them consciously. When we decide how to vote, what to buy, where to go on vacation and myriad other things, unconscious thoughts that we are not even aware of typically play a big role. Research has recently brought to light just how profoundly our unconscious mind shapes our day-to-day interactions. Page 32

Post-Freudian psychology has set aside the id and the ego for a more pragmatic take on what defines our unconscious self. Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman has described the modern distinction between the automatic and the controlled. In his best-selling book, Thinking Fast and Slow
… Top left column, page 33

The unconscious way we perceive people during the course of the day is a reflexive action. We must exert wilful, conscious effort to put aside the unexplained and sometimes unwarranted negative feelings that we may harbor towards others. The stronger the unconscious influence, the harder we have to work consciously to overcome it … The ability to regulate our own behavior-whether making friends, getting up to speed at a new job or overcoming a drinking problem-depends on more than genes, temperament and social support networks. It also hinges, in no small measure, on our capacity to identify and try to overcome the automatic impulses and emotions that in influence every aspect of our waking life. To make our way in the world, we need to learn to come to terms with our unconscious self. Mid-page of page 33

GUT REACTIONS
When we meet someone new, we form a first impression even before striking up a conversation. We may observe the person’s race, sex or age-features that, once perceived, automatically connect to our internalized stereotypes about how members of a particular group are apt to behave. These assumptions … Bottom left column, page 33

CHECK OUT the COLOR TEST on the top right column of page 33

OUT OF CONTROL
Unconscious thoughts and feelings influence not only the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us but also our everyday actions. Bottom right page 34

EMBODIED COGNITION
Some of the research on the unconscious and behavior focuses on the way the surrounding physical environment influences our psychological state of mind. Bottom left page 36

Why Some Social Science Studies Fail on top of page 34
…Still, the overall body of evidence collected so far clearly shows that unconscious influences on judgment, emotion, behavior and motivation are of practical importance both to society as a whole and to the everyday lives of its members.

FREUD REDUX
… that means we can set aside antiquated notions of Oedipus complexes and accept the reality that the unconscious assets its presence in every moment of our lives, when we are fully awake as well as when we are absorbed in the depths of a dream.

NOW AVAILABLE online or you can watch the author talk about how the unconscious affects our behaviors at ScientificAmerican.com/jan2014/unconscious

In the end, prejudice, like unhealthy competition, compels us to constantly judge others in contrast to ourselves. When people do not mirror us and our beliefs, we pre-judge them as unworthy or wrong or even dangerous because people with low RESPECT LEVELS believe other people must be like them in order to be approved, to feel safe with and therefore worthy of respect in their interactions with them.

To end what was, awareness is the beginning, but a global culture shift in our driving unconscious Disrespect Philosophy is ultimately the change agent we need to create a better world for all life to thrive.

February 9 and 11, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Higher RESPECT LEVELS = More Power to Generate Positive Change

The astounding thing I am experiencing the most as a result of a continually increasing RESPECT LEVEL for myself is the power I feel … the empowering energy and ability to look at my history, to learn from it and to create a new future … and as result, a more internally and externally rewarding life.

A higher RESPECT LEVEL for myself compelled me to examine my spiritual beliefs, to let go of what I did not choose or no longer chose to accept … and to study, learn and embrace unconditional love as a new way of life … the unconditional love modelled by Jesus and his many followers, then and now. It has allowed me to see the “logic, practicality and compassion” of the unconditional love God gives us and asks us to give others … as we have been given … which includes respecting/valuing others as we desire to be respected/valued ourselves.

A higher RESPECT LEVEL for myself fuels my desire to learn more about myself so I can eliminate thoughts, feelings, habits and conditioning that gets in the way of my growth … and in the way of my developing a mutually unconditional love relationship with a husband. It empowers me to delve into what makes a good marriage that can weather all the storms of life, while giving each person room to grow into their unique potential … without competition or jealousy or any such limiting thought or feeling that seeks to destroy a relationship designed to help us grow through our relationship with each other.

In my later years of my second marriage, the first marriage was my attempt to run away from home at age sixteen that ended disastrously within a year, I read Harville Hendrix’s Getting the Love You Want, to do what I could to save my marriage … but it takes two to be committed, to be open and willing to learn and adjust, which he wasn’t at the time, so now, after being single for so long, not wanting to bring the same baggage or new baggage to a final marriage, I’m reading Hendrix’s Keeping the Love You Find so I can not only grow as a partner, but so I change enough to not repeat the past mistakes and to attract a beloved as committed as I am to not just be who we are when we marry, but also to give each other enough room to grow … but without losing the intimate connection a solid marriage needs so we don’t end up going our separate ways because of the increasing distance that results from living two separate lives as my previous husband and I did.

A higher RESPECT LEVEL for myself also is enriching my life by providing me with the gift of tolerance and acceptance of all people … allowing me to see and appreciate each person’s unique qualities, difference of opinions, beliefs and experience and to patiently help them appreciate my unique qualities, difference of opinions, beliefs and experience also.

A higher RESPECT LEVEL, I’m learning, for others is a natural result of increasing my own RESPECT LEVEL … because we can only give to others what we have inside to give.

… And on that note, here is a NEWSFLASH! Soon you will be able to increase your own RESPECT LEVEL to generate the RESPECT “FULL” results you want also. Coming online in the next weeks, not only will you be able to read the final chapters of my fiction book, DARK HORSES, you will also be able to dive into my other book, the non-fiction, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE as it takes centre stage on the http://www.therespectprinciple.com blog!

I so look forward to your repeated returns and comments. Thank you!

December 23, 2013

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
http://www.kaitlinatrepanier.com

All Rights Reserved by DARK HORSES PRODUCTIONS/KAITLIN A. TREPANIER, Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE Developer, Author, Speaker, Playwright, Altruistic Entrepreneur, and Human Rights Activist … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED.