The INSANE IDEA CREATING CHAOS in Our World

“Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity.” Albert Einstein

The thing is, the wisdom applies to all areas of our and humanity’s lives. When we refuse, because of our beliefs experience, apathy, or our ostrich head-in-the-sand approach, to make the changes we need individually and collectively, the same problems and patterns keep repeating themselves and people keep paying the costs of preventable tragedies.

It may sound too absurd to think that a little shift in our thinking can address the complex problems of our world … but I speak from experience and know it can and it does. And I’m not talking about love or religion, but about an intellectual secular idea that does include a little heart in it.

KAITLIN ANN TREPANIER

Advocate Educator Writer Social Entrepreneur & Founder

Connecting The Dots With The Respect Principle

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April 24, 2019

Seeing past personality types, learning styles, body types and beliefs … to see and swim a new way.

We are complex creatures and not one of us is the same as another. Even identical twins have differences although not necessarily obvious to the eye.

Knowing this fact, accepting this reality, can be the compelling reason for us to consider, and put into practice, the fresh perspective that will serve us all well to see past personality types, learning styles, body types and our unique blend of beliefs is to operate on one universal principle.

Of course, the ideal is love … unconditional love, but as evidenced by our past and present, just the idea of valuing … respecting each unique person is a tall order in our global culture of Disrespect. The taller order is actually learning how to respect … to value all life in our words and actions … every day … in all our relationships, connections and interactions.

A simple example of how we struggle with this idea and simply resort to our conditioned response of prejudice is what I have experienced with a personal goal: the process of changing my swimming style.

Water has pulled me into its depths all my life. As a child, I spent hours on the river’s edge and within no time at all, following my Dad’s example, my child’s body was slicing through the green water to cross to the other side of the river. Though I have been told I did not take well to the public swimming pool and provided lessons, my swimming skills demonstrate I nonetheless did learn different swim strokes as well as the basics of diving, but it was only recently I discovered my swimming style was called the Tarzan stroke.

For known and unknown reasons, my swimming style meant I kept my head lifted out and above the water. One of the known reasons, though not entirely understood why, was to stop water from going up my nose. Yet diving is one of my favorite aspects of swimming.

In fact, one year, after a tumultuous period of my life, I even taught myself how to swan dive. Till then, I had never learned successfully how to use a spring diving board, so learning how to swan dive meant observing all users of spring boards and of course, especially the children, with their lack of fear and their bold fun who taught me to just let go and get comfortable with falling in the water in all kinds of ways; which also meant letting to of what people thought of a grown woman flopping into a pool as I grew accustomed to being out of control, so I could gain more trust in the process to achieve my goal.

In one winter season, my unconventional learning style did result in my ability to spring my body high into the air with arms spread wide and legs pulled together in proper form before my arms returned to their entry position as my body curved and sliced the pool’s surface. Sometimes on my entries my body was more rolled than straight and into an underwater somersault my body would roll. Sometimes my body was so straight and pointed, down to the bottom my arrowed body would rush. And sometimes, my body would have just enough of a curve to take me down so far but then gracefully sweep me back up to the surface. Even without a camera, I knew I was successful in completing my goal because of the response from observers, including the lifeguards.

A few years ago when I moved back to the home of my late teens and twenties where one of the greatest bodies of water, Lake Huron, once challenged and strengthened my swimming abilities, I soon realized how much I had let my swimming strength diminish. Upon my return, I also discovered one of the newer challenges I wanted to experience, surfing, is becoming a growing popular sport at the town’s main beach because of the dynamics of the breakwall, piers and currents.

A significant water level drop since I owned property south of the town’s border and even south of the area known as Boiler Beach has resulted in significant lake changes, including rip currents that develop in between sandbars and beside piers; rip currents that can thrust even an accomplished swimmer across the surface of the water in seconds, leaving them disoriented and if not wise in the ways of these sometimes volatile waters, stranded in deep water, exhausted from fighting the water’s stronger force. Safe swimming, as well as surfing and any other water activity, is now best-managed by learning how rip currents work, how to get out of their often frightening grasp, more safety strategies and tools, plus stronger swimming skills for this great lake.

For me, stronger swimming skills translates into face-in-the water comfort by learning to swim the crawl as opposed to wasting energy trying to keep myself alive by keeping my head above water at all times by swimming the energy-zapping Tarzan stroke. Changing a fifty-year style of swimming has not been easy or as quick as some would hope … especially people with different personality types, learning styles, body types and beliefs.

As a result of a lot of personal work, I know me very well these days and that includes the recognition none of the above … personality types, learning style, body types and even beliefs are the same as the majority. First, many people like constant attention while learning. In contrast, I excel when I gather new information and then go off on my own to practice and experiment because someone constantly talking at me is a distraction to me, but welcomed by other personality types. When I need more information, I come back for more, taking all the pieces and working on them individually before I start integrating them. For example, two of the biggest challenges I faced was getting used to putting my face horizontal in the water and learning how to breathe as I lifted my face partially out of the water, first to the right and eventually also to the left. Changing my kick from a thrust to a constant flutter meant developing the muscles in my hips and legs in new ways. Then there were the goggles, the bathing cap, getting the arm strokes coordinated with the breathing and the face in the water plus the new style of kick, etc.

Knowing what I know about my personality type, learning style and even body type, I should have known better than to take lessons in a big class with so many swimmers who, as it turns out, already swim the way I was there to learn how to do.

So, after two classes, I took the information provided, did some research of my own and started swimming on my own, breaking down old habits and instilling new ones, which, of course is taking time, though in truth it has only been a few months. Still, I find several people are quick to share their opinions about what I am doing wrong even though they know nothing about me other than what they see in their mind snapshots of my swimming endeavors.

Yet I know, if observers do not have the same personality type as I they will not understand how I work well on my own, breaking down big pictures into the details in order to construct a new big picture. They will not know that my body type is first a sprinter, excelling in activities that require quick and short bursts of great speed and that in order for me to become an endurance performer, I first have to train my body and mind with how it works best … using my natural speed with an element at a time until I can bring all the elements together quickly … in a flash, so I can experience what the new way of swimming I am striving for feels like … so I can build that feeling into my endurance training and goals.

“You swim too fast, your head is not deep enough in the water, you need a camera with video to watch your form,” are just some of the comments and suggestions I have heard, albeit, no doubt with good intentions, but yet at the same time this experience greatly demonstrates how we like, prefer even, everyone to be like us … to do as we do, to act as we act, to think as we think, to learn as we learn … and yet, no matter how much we may try, we are not like anyone else … and never will be without losing our own identity. We, each of us, are unique combinations of a number of factors, none of which is duplicated in anyone else.

Learning to appreciate we are not like everyone else and to understand that our differences from others does not make us or anyone else wrong, but just different is a very important step in making our world a safer and more peaceful place to live.

Valuing … respecting our differences, as well as our similarity in being unique creatures, is a huge step in making our world the safer and the most peaceful place we all want to live.

Hmmm, on that note, it is off to the pool I go in a few hours to recapture the new feeling I experienced during my last swim session when everything finally came together … speed, stroke, right and left breathing. Now I can begin to refine my form and build up my endurance so I will be ready this summer to be the swimmer and surfer I envision myself to be.

March 17, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Mental Health … or Just Broken Hearts and Spirits?

Science has shown that depression, in time, actually manifests itself in people’s brains and bodies, affecting the chemicals in our brains that motivate or de-motivate us.

The “key” to consider I believe is the “in time” label.

First, let us remember that some people are born with the chemical imbalance that causes depression and its often disastrous side effects, particularly suicide.

But let’s also consider how people not born with the chemical brain imbalance become depressed.

In a world constantly affirming that no one is entitled to respect … to be valued … unless someone in authority says so … people becoming depressed is easy to understand.

When a child is taught by their experience, as the majority of children are based on the results generated from the beginning till now, that their “value’ is determined by others’ thoughts and expectations, such a child loses his or her identity in the process of pleasing others to gain their respect … to feel valued … and therefore safe, protected … but relying on others not only will disappoint children, but also in reality also has the potential to cause great harm and severe danger, including death by violence, suicide or murder.

The training tool employed by the Disrespect Philosophy unconsciously driving our world is the repetitive “breaking” of hearts and spirits. Some people call the effect depression; something wrong that becomes wrong or broken in people’s minds but both my own experience and my research indicate otherwise. Both indicate the precursor to the level of depression that creates havoc with a life has more to do with the repetitive damage done to a person’s heart and spirit … and if not healed, opens the path for depression to sink into the cells of one’s brain and body.

In other words, the real mental health challenge is not depression, but its root cause, disrespect.

For some people depression that has been inside one too long needs to be treated with medication as well as the personal work to discover the damage done to one’s heart and spirit and to heal so one can move forward; however, what I found the most helpful was the discovery of where and when, the personal journey to heal … that increased my RESPECT LEVEL to a high enough level …. so I could reclaim my identity … and then to a higher RESPECT LEVEL that resulted in my reconnecting with my spirituality … all of which finally resulted in my experiencing the peace nothing else generated in my fifty plus years, along with the confidence, courage and direction to finally move upward and forward.

Family and friends thought I lost “it” twenty years ago when I walked away from everything and everyone I knew. What no one seemed to understand or wanted to hear was I had not lost my mind, but instead my heart and spirit had lost the desire to use my mind … that is the difference between depression and a nervous breakdown from a brokenness deep in the core of one’s self.

Science is a great tool and methodology to help us understand ourselves and our world, but like all things and fields of study, science is only a part of the big picture. Labels are created to help us understand our differences and each other, but labelling in itself quickly becomes prejudicial in a world still driven by the unconscious belief we are only as valuable as we are labelled … worthy of respect, worthy of being valued or worthy of being rejected, abandoned, denied, reshaped, conformed … etc.

In light of this train of thought, perhaps we can re-consider the stigma attached to mental health for what it is too … yet another level of prejudice created by the Disrespect Philosophy’s premise … no one is valuable unless someone in authority … decides someone is worthy.

The question begged then is the Disrespect Philosophy and its fallout problems of broken hearts, broken spirits and eventually the mental health problems, including depression what we want to serve as our legacy?

February 21, 2014

Kaitlin A. Trepanier
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Just Smarter or Wiser? The New Legacy … Making Wisdom Available to Children

It has been said that wisdom does not necessarily always come with age simply because acquiring knowledge without applying it to our lives and letting what we learn change us means we stay the same … filled with lots of knowledge and trivia that is not translated into our making wiser choices because of wisdom developed.

In a world where many are freed to learn as much as we want because of the world wide web and the availability of an incredible abundance of information “out there,” it is easy for us to believe we are wiser, instead of just smarter. Just smarter because of the accumulation of data and knowledge we now have stored in our minds or have access to even though what we learn is not often translated into new action to generate new results… in other words we often do not connect all the dots and therefore the wisdom is not revealed.

Though we all have the potential to gather vast amounts of data and knowledge, those the most liable to misunderstand data and knowledge are not power in themselves and often use them unwisely are those who feel less than adequate … those who believe they must prove their “value” by their vast collection of data and knowledge along with the collecting of things and people.

It is the principle many education organizations unwittingly pass onto their students. This is demonstrated by the constant barrage of stories about well-educated people who use their vast collection of data and knowledge to manipulate others in their quest to gain what they desire, which is seldom wisdom.

Why? Because wisdom reflects the understanding that we are all in this life, sharing this planet and its resources together.

Like most people, I did not understand this for the longest time either. As a child, I rejected the school system because I found the experience filled with cruelty and hypocrisy, especially since I went to a Catholic School where the primary thing I remember is not the text book learning but the violence inflicted upon me for not being a model of the perfect student.

It was only on my later journey of collecting lots of data and knowledge by attending university in my mid-to-late thirties with the intent to become a psychologist and then later by my following self-directed studies did I discover things like personality types; first described by Carl Jung and later revisited and simplified by the Myers-Briggs mother daughter team who created the Myers Briggs Type Indicator and then made even more user friendly for the average person by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger. All of a sudden, I understood why my teachers and I often clashed in the classrooms … I was not a bad person or girl … I was an INTP … a very small percentage of the population who thrives, not on listening to teachers talk all day, which bored me silly because my communication and learning skill strengths are foremost experiential … reading, writing and doing and my weakest is being overloaded by the verbosity of “E’s” who dominate our world, who erroneously, by the way judge anyone not like them as less smart … even stupid.

Almost smothering myself with the wealth of data and knowledge, a new picture of the girl I had become convinced I was and the girl I really was began to reveal the falsities I had become convinced were realities.

As light bulbs flashed and flashed with every new step, with the next accumulation of the latest and greatest knowledge, I, like many people, began to believe the maxim “Knowledge is Power.”

But it isn’t. Knowledge is just a package of data put together in a comprehensive manner to make sense … until the next batch of knowledge comes along to trump the last bit of knowledge … and so the power struggle goes on and on and on … as it has since the beginning of humanity.

For years, I too stored up reams of data, knowledge and quotes falsely believing they alone provided the answer. Always adding the latest scientific discoveries meant more and more filing drawers and bookshelves filled to the point that knowing where to start to unravel it all seemed overwhelming.

Just as it must seem to children and youth these days.

The problem is the people with the most wealth of data and knowledge have become convinced that the only way to make the world a better place is to make everyone else like them. Which is why many of the solutions they present to deal with many of our world’s challenges are too complex or too competitive.

For example, during the process of securing a school’s students and staff to be the “Legacy” performers for the inaugural Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE SCHOOL PACKAGE, I visited the Blue Water District School Board’s website where I found their Character Development charter comprised of the values desired are respect, honesty, responsibility, trust, teamwork, self-discipline, commitment, caring, integrity and dependability. The similar charter I found in many Ontario school halls on posters, from Windsor to Sault Ste. Marie to Kingston, when I visited as a school performer. All of them reminded me of the mission, vision and values I saw on corporate and business walls over several years.

Whatever the words and titles, all have the same intent … to create a more harmonious environment, but alas, the other commonality is they are written by people with vast stores of data and knowledge, who are so removed from the daily existence of the world’s population and who have unfortunately, even when with the best intentions are contributing to making people feel they must know as much as they do in order for them to feel valuable and successful; I used to also.

I realized this when I wrote my first few versions of Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE. The first was too simple, the second too complex, so I began to think about the world with all of its people, many of whom cannot read or write, have never been to school, yet also those in the highest level of learning institutions and I rewrote the book in its third version. I thought about the little ones in playgrounds, in elementary and second schools, the dropouts, and all the people around the world who desperately want to learn and live better lives.

Keeping this vast audience in mind, I am grateful that the reams of data and knowledge coalesced and revealed a piece of wisdom to share. Today I often laugh and think of phrases like KISS Keep it Simple Smarty (I prefer Smarty over Stupid since putdowns are easy and reflective of a low RESPECT LEVEL) and the scientific premise of OCCAM”S RAZOR that the simplest is most often the truest and I am writing this to hopefully make you laugh because of your recognition of the simple truth and its wisdom.

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE simply means we shift our long-held principle, The Disrespect Philosophy, that respect is something a child has to earn … to The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … the wisdom that recognizes no child should have to meet anyone’s or any groups’ standards or qualification to be valued … treated RESPECTFULLY for just being a life.

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE by its simplicity makes the idea feasible to almost every person, regardless of their IQ.

The RESPECT SCALE shows the results and consequences of different levels of Respect. On the bottom are dictators, serial killers and on or near the top are Jesus Christ, Ghandi, Martin Luther King and everyone else is somewhere in between.

Teach a child they are valuable and they will think and act with honesty, responsibility, trust, teamwork, self-discipline, commitment, caring, integrity, dependability and a lot more, including love.

Free the children from the weight of first having to become filled and/or confused with reams of data and knowledge before they can have wisdom. Free them to learn who they are first by empowering them with one unified principle, not shaped by religion, politics, economics, social status or any such qualifier and our children will thrive as individuals … and as a global nation that humanity has not yet attained.

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE is the intellectual, scientific and economic version because it is practical, logical and compassionate.

If you desire a Christian version, God and Jesus made it simple too … treat others as you would have them treat you.

Let us give our children a new legacy to build upon … the legacy of valuing all life and then empowering them to develop the means to reflect the new and unified philosophy beneficial to all life.

September 20, 2013
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