Helping Our Youth … Helping Us All

A simple thing that has gone the wayside of communities are dances … a safe place where youth can gather, develop their social skills, burn off some of their youthful energy, and have fun.
As someone who loves to dance, I am extremely grateful for all the dances at the beach pavilions in Kincardine Port Elgin, Sauble Beach, and even in Rondeau Park I attended. Yes, there were some problems, but they exist whether there are dances or not.
Scientists tell us children and teens are not expected to live as long as us, yet we have taken a key component that adds great value away from their lives … and our own.
When I was a teen dance “cruiser” for the Whitby Optimists’ Club, yes, watching the senior middle school and high school students so they kept in line with hands, etc., was quite a challenge, but a very rewarding one. Now, I see teenagers with all this energy, many never even walk to school, and have no way, other than sports, and not everyone likes sports, to expend that energy … and either they aren’t because they are channelling that energy into their fingers, phones, and sex, therefore it is no surprise what is happening to our youth.
It is time for parents, grandparents, and communities to step up and provide youth with the benefits they reaped from dancing a night away. It can all start with you …
Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle
March 14, 2016

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier … The Respect Specialist, Humanitarian, Social Entrepreneur, Creative, and Writer. The social business venture creates, publishes, and produces books, products, and services to free potential based on the concept and global initiative “Connecting the Dots … with The Respect Principle.”

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From Jungian Analyst, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D, “A culture that requires harm to one’s soul in order to follow the culture’s proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed … While socialization for children is an important thing, to kill the interior criatara is to kill the child. The West Africans recognize that to be harsh with a child is to cause its soul to retreat from his body, sometimes just a few feet away, other times many days’ walk away.”

Not only will a child’s soul be many days’ away, it could be years. You can tell by the empty eyes, sometimes induced by medication such as Ritalin and/or the destructive behavior to one’s self or others. Later on, we see the remnants of soul beatings and deaths not only by drinking, drug, food, and shopping addictions, but also by the collateral damage of a black and white philosophy, financial instability, unhealthy relationships, people pleasing at any cost, the subsequent depression or rage …

Instead, instilling children with a healthy “RESPECT LEVEL” not only will a child’s soul stay intact and alive in the child, the soul, his or her true identity, will help the child to continuously adapt to changes by keeping a healthy balance between being socialized without losing one’s self in the process.

Keeping a child’s soul alive and well will also empower a child to go through the storms of his or her teen years without his or her self being cast overboard in the rush of hormones and the independence drive.

A balanced teen will try many new things, risk many new adventures, yet still stay true to its soul’s course, resulting in better choices for one’s adult life … while always retaining the ability to continue adapting, confident in one’s self and resultant decisions … not that there will not be mistakes … nothing tried translates into nothing gained, though sometimes what is gained is not the expected result, but the lessons from trying.

If we want such balanced adults shaping our world … we need first to decide this is what we want … for all children … for everyone … and begin the adaptation process of recognizing every child … every person should know by their own experience, they are valued … respected … so we do not cause children’s souls to leave … for any period of time … so we heal a culture that reveals its degree of illness by the results of everyday life … including all the public statistics that tell the tale all too clearly … and for all the private statistics we seldom hear about it, but see everyday in empty eyes, mean actions, and defiant acts.

Considering all the strife many African children, youth, and adults experience in their lives because of the poverty and living conditions, many people express wonder at how they can be so happy regardless … I believe it is because they indeed do value … respect their children and their souls in ways our “civilized” world has not yet mastered.

We have something to learn from every life … every person … every culture … that is why valuing … respecting … every person must come first before we will reap the full rewards within our grasp.

May 14, 2015


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Pinkola Estes, Clarissa, PH.D. Women Who Run With the Wolves, Page 177 and Page 195

The Numbers, Lives and “Respect Levels” We Need to Change Fellow Canadians

CANADA ONLY STATISTICS (Excerpts from Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE book)

Canadian Population, 35,000,000 (million), February 15, 2013

VIOLENCE, 2 million Criminal Code violations in 2012, February 15, 2013, 424,400 violent crime incidents in 2010, February 15, 2013, 20% account for violent crimes in 2010, February 15, 2013, 7% increase in homicide in 2010, February 15, 2013, 1% increase in criminal harassment in 2010, February 15, 2013, Adult males still majority of offenders, but women committing violent crimes has risen by 34%, February 15, 2013

CHILDREN, 40% increase in child pornography in 2010, February 15, 2013, 3% increase in sexual violations against children in 2010, February 15, 2013, In 2005, 36,895 children and youth under 18 reported to police they had been physically for sexually assaulted, February 15, 2013, Most violent acts against children and youth are committed mostly by people known to them … friends, acquaintances, family members … least likely are strangers, February 15, 2013

A GLIMPSE of the FINANCIAL IMPACT, Domestic violence … spousal abuse costs country at least 7.4 billion a year because of economic impact … policing, healthcare, funerals, lost wages … February 15, 2013, 80% female victims are susceptible to sustaining costly and long-lasting, physical, emotional and financial consequences, February 15, 2013

ADDITIONAL STATISTICS from STATISTICS CANADA Website November 2, 2014 “Police Reported”

From The Daily, Violence Against Women 2011 report. Police Reported 173,000 aged 15+. Equals 1207 of 100,000 women experienced violence

From The Daily, Sexual Offences Against Children and Youth in Canada, 2012, 14,000 under 18 experienced sexual offences

From the Canadian Centre for Justice Statistics Profile Series Child and Youth Victims, 2008. Children and youth fall victim to violence including physical, sexual, assault, robbery, homicide

Suicides and Suicide Rate by Sex and Age Group 2014.
10-14 29
15-19 198
20-24 301
25-29 261
30-34 283
35-39 288
40-44 354
45-49 432
50-54 443
55-59 375
60-64 245
65-69 150
70-74 128
75-79 101
80-84 76
85-89 49
90+ 13

Raising our individual and national “Respect Levels” will lower these numbers and the related expenses … as well as demonstrating the compassion we were once known for as Canadians.

Also keep in mind that many who have been harmed, without healing, will harm, not necessarily in the same way, but nonetheless will pass on the legacy of violence … the low ‘Respect Level” they know from experience.

November 2, 2014

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Teachers’ Strikes … Teaching Disrespect to Youth and Children

Based on the Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE premise, teachers’ strikes demonstrate adults do not have high enough Respect Levels to resolve issues between the adults … the teachers, administration, and government in a timely manner … even though the impact is severest to youth and children.

And then we wonder why youth and children grow up with the mindset that important issues cannot be resolved without conflict and without neglect … the respectful diligence necessary to take care of the children and youth first and foremost … and why they have low Respect Levels for themselves … and their elders.

Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

Connecting the Dots … with The RESPECT PRINCIPLE author and altruistic entrepreneur … because every child … every person … should know, by their own experience, they are valued … RESPECTED. ©

Young … A Qualifier for “Respect?”

These days, repeatedly I am reading and hearing the descriptions of “new” as young, yet I am wondering why does someone have to be young to be considered new or emerging?

If we are all growing, developing, and changing, why do we discount someone who is thirty-five, fifty, seventy, or even ninety or one hundred, if they are learning and doing something for the first time? They are “new” at what they are learning and doing, though they may be young-at-heart, which the older we grow we know is true for many, so why dismiss the new who are not young?

Because youth is put on a pedestal instead of the whole life of a human being … because we value youth over all else … because we do not respect all life … yet everyone is “young” in their early years … and though some are born with natural talents that reveal themselves early, for the most part, it is over time, that the many gifts, talents, and abilities of people are discovered, developed, and bloom with life experience and increasing knowledge.

Like all prejudices, conscious or unconscious, transforming mindsets that value one group over others happens first by awareness, then conscious thoughts, choices, and actions.

The young are just young. It makes them no more special than anyone else and this they, and we, need to embrace because if they are fortunate they will live past their youth, which is when who they really are as individuals will shine brighter than their age. And, over time, they too will become “new” or “novices” over and over again as they continue to grow, develop, and change … as they too experience the journey from birth to life to death … because no one is exempted … just as no one should be exempted from respect because of “being young” or because of any other qualifier.

August 2014
KAT … Kaitlin Ann Trepanier

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